Cheating

Lifestyle Relationships
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:konfused: i didnt understand… :bummer:

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He is saying that guy would become a saint - implying that guys are no saint so they will give up to the temptations, no matter what

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Apna dimag chalaye to Wali Allah ban jayega…

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Cheating is very common, some men get easily lured in, some women get bored and vice-versa. Too many people never think about their partners when they do this. It's disgusting.

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Husband = pillow keeper

BF = actual beneficiary of pillow

pillow he fasad ki jarr hai.

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How so?

Its going to be hard for a cheating wife to sleep at someone else's house.

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Whatever happened to fear of Allah! When one commits these vices - Allah surely exposes them.

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uhhh...

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Off topic but what happens to the fear of Allah when someone smokes? Dances? Gossips? Dresses "inappropriately"? Listens to music? Swears? Etc...

Indulgence is indulgence. No one is thinking about religion when they're performing an act out of impulse and/ or for self satisfaction.

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Just a slight difference here mannz, more like a technicality. Smoking dancing dressing inappropriately music swearing even consensual sex (between an unmarried couple) is between the person and Allah. Only Allah knows if He will forgive or not.

Cheating on the other hand is
1. Breach of a promise/contract i.e. nikah = basement level 35 of hell for the cheater,
2. Breaking another human being's heart / causing someone extreme pain and misery = Allah will not forgive unless that other person forgives. And on D-Day that other person will have no pressure to forgive.

Idea being bad deeds are mainly categorized as either between you and Allah (chance of forgiveness) or between you and another human being (good chance of no forgiveness)

Philosophy sorry to have gone off-topic here. Cheating is very alive and kickin' and very rampant in Pakistan. Men do it more (hire prostitutes etc) but women do it just as much. The idea that women facilitate it is retarded. It is consensual sex between two sane people. Both are equally responsible.

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^like your post. makes sense. and yes women may facilitate it at times, but it is something consensual between two adults and men should know when to put a stop to something.

I think (this is an assumption) that pakistani men in pakistan are verrry good at hiding it. Like it doesnt exist and lead normal lives at home. i know we can say the same for other societies, buttt i think its a bit different.

I just dont get why our people pride themselves in the low divorce rate when people have such unhappy marriages in our society. I am not saying everyone should get divorced, but maybe we need a reality check.

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Women do find out but they put up with their cheating husbands. The stigma that society has attached with divorce makes it close to impossible for women to re-marry. Which is also fed by the overrated idea of virginity i.e. women there come with the warning label you find on medicines here: do not use if seal is broken.

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Its nto that they are good at hiding it........just that the wives can't react much........moreover, wives can tolerate cheating, but not a second wife........(there is a thread somewhere which shows majority of guppans believe so too)

and No way to quantify/measure happyness of a marriage......divorce on the other hand can be assigned a stat...thats all

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So why do Pakistani men cheat?

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^because they got same stuff attached to them...as everyone else....

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It's not only about that.

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paki women like to cheat to.......guy don't cheat with a pillow now do he?

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Is it common? Upper class I bet.

Have you been cheated on?

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i didn't conduct a survey........

naa.......how could I, i am not married yet.

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NomiCA is the go to guy for ladies discontent with their marriages.