I've been cheated on. What a learning experience that was.. Oh boy.
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How did you find out about it?
How did you find out about it?
I had this really nasty feeling. I got this sense that something was not right. I never went into his email account but something told me to just check it, so I did. Found tons of emails written back in forth between him and this chick in full detail of what was going on. I printed every single email and confronted him. He denied and I presented the emails to his face. The worst is... I was SO in "love" with him, I forgave him. Till... it happened again but the second time was much worse...
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:( What was the second time? How did you get over him? How long did it take you?
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So if one is flirting with a married woman and she spends night with her own hubby, is she cheating on you?
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^ confused?
So if one is flirting with a married woman and she spends night with her own hubby, is she cheating on you?
Iqbal! apna dhanda hy chori ka, per kerna parta hy bari eeman dari sy
"nana pateker"
:( What was the second time? How did you get over him? How long did it take you?
The second time was... Well.. it's a long story but to brief it out. I was with him for 4 years. The first cheating happened after 3 years together. The fourth year... His parents introduced him to some chick, he started to get to know her while I was still with him. I found this out through a conversation I was having with him... it accidently spilled. So I became furious. Exactly one week later, having a conversation with him, I find out he got engaged to that chick his parents introduced him to because he didn't have the guts to speak up about me. It was the end for me. Even after being engaged to the other chick, he still wanted to "keep in touch" with me. I didn't let that happen. I was broken. Completely shattered. I wasted 4 years of my life thinking I was in "love". It took a while to get over it and trust me, it wasn't easy but I did it. I moved on and took my life on a different path.
That's my story.
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^ What a waste! I feel for you so much hun. Why do guys do that?!
You got well rid, think of it as a blessing, he didnt hav the guts to speak on them, imagine life with him, he wud of never spoke up infront of mummy.
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^ What a waste! I feel for you so much hun. Why do guys do that?! You got well rid, think of it as a blessing, he didnt hav the guts to speak on them, imagine life with him, he wud of never spoke up infront of mummy.
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Guys can be jerks and can be unappreciative. I can honestly tell you that I was so good to him that he thought it was okay to do these things because of my forgiving nature and because I'm just TOO nice! You are right, he would have never spoke up in front of the mother. lol. Typical mama's boy.
Anyways, that chapter is now closed and a new one has begun for me. I know I felt like I could never trust another guy or give my heart to someone, but with time, I did. I found a guy who truly respects me and loves me. I couldn't ask God to bless me with more. The thing is sometimes you gotta leave things to God, He will always do what is best for you and He somehow will always show you the way. A broken heart can be mended by the right person. Don't lose hope.
xoxo
Would you mind telling me your story, if you have one?
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Gosh... where do i start? Its a long story.
Basically i was with him for abt 2 years absoloutly adore this guy. But cutting things short, i really think hes cheating. Its small things like if i wanna talk abit longer on the fone it will be a big deal. He never answers the fone when hes out. He blows hot and cold these days, sumtimes he wants me sumtimes he doesnt. I cant cope. He left me back in november for a month. Now hes finished me again, and im pretty sure its done now. But the funny thing is his parents know about me. I dont get it. Its like i've gone from being his everything to his anything.
I dont know what to do anymore tbh. I cant move on, i really want him. But if nothings gonna happen, then i'll have too.
Gosh... where do i start? Its a long story. Basically i was with him for abt 2 years absoloutly adore this guy. But cutting things short, i really think hes cheating. Its small things like if i wanna talk abit longer on the fone it will be a big deal. He never answers the fone when hes out. He blows hot and cold these days, sumtimes he wants me sumtimes he doesnt. I cant cope. He left me back in november for a month. Now hes finished me again, and im pretty sure its done now. But the funny thing is his parents know about me. I dont get it. Its like i've gone from being his everything to his anything. I dont know what to do anymore tbh. I cant move on, i really want him. But if nothings gonna happen, then i'll have too.
Okay. I don't mean to be harsh but I will be honest with you. I don't mean to hurt you either, that is not my intention but what I am going to tell you, is just what I honestly feel. So if it hurts, I apologize.
To me it just sounds like he is not interested in you anymore. The more you go after, the more they move away. Don't let him want you when he wants you because then you are just being played with. If he can't simply answer the phone and let you know he will call you back because he's out because those small things count. Trust me, the smallest of smallest things count. His parents might know about you but that won't change what HE is feeling or thinking. You said, he is finished with you, then you are finished with him. I know it's hard to move on but trust me, don't hang onto someone who doesn't give you the respect and love you deserve. Whatever happens, happens for the best hun, remember that. It might seem like this is torture, but you will look back on it and know that what happened, it's for the best. God never does anything that is not in your best interests. We as human beings see it negatively, but really, it's not. I know it's hard, trust me. I know. But, I know you can do it. And hey, if you ever need anyone to talk to, you have me. You can always PM me, if you want to and I'll be there.
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You didnt hurt me huni, And everything you said is true. I try my best not to contact him, but i fail im weak and i jus contact him again. I cant help it.
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hmmmmmmm
I've been cheated on. What a learning experience that was.. Oh boy.
same here :(
All differences aside MB, you do realise you'll have to answer God about each n every relationship you've had, right? If I was you, I would stop right here. Let the time come, I'm sure Allah s.w.t. has someone very special in store for you.
You didnt hurt me huni, And everything you said is true. I try my best not to contact him, but i fail im weak and i jus contact him again. I cant help it.
I totally understand. You don't know how much I understand what you are feeling. I was weak too, hence, the thought of seperation made me forgive his first cheat. You HAVE to be stronger. Please hun. You cannot let yourself be treated like a doormat. Try turning your phone off. Keep yourself busy.
I know it's hard. What I did was, I use to write emails of whatever I was feeling but I never sent them to him. It was only to let out whatever I wanted out and it refrained me from actually contacting him.
Don't keep hurting yourself by contacting him over and over again.
same here :(
A lesson well learnt.
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All differences aside MB, you do realise you'll have to answer God about each n every relationship you've had, right? If I was you, I would stop right here. Let the time come, I'm sure Allah s.w.t. has someone very special in store for you.
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Thanks. But I've had him in my life for a very long time now, So its quite hard to jus part that. When we broke up the first time i did do alot of prayer etc, But i still had the urge to speak/see him. Im trying to let it go and Let Allah deal with it. Believe me im trying.
I totally understand. You don't know how much I understand what you are feeling. I was weak too, hence, the thought of seperation made me forgive his first cheat. You HAVE to be stronger. Please hun. You cannot let yourself be treated like a doormat. Try turning your phone off. Keep yourself busy.
I know it's hard. What I did was, I use to write emails of whatever I was feeling but I never sent them to him. It was only to let out whatever I wanted out and it refrained me from actually contacting him.
Don't keep hurting yourself by contacting him over and over again.
Im trying my best to move on and to forget it, and to think i deserve better. But its so hard. I've tried the email thing before. Even if im out im still thinking about him. I try to keep myself busy but in the end i give up and break down. I dont know what exactly to do from here.
Im trying my best to move on and to forget it, and to think i deserve better. But its so hard. I've tried the email thing before. Even if im out im still thinking about him. I try to keep myself busy but in the end i give up and break down. I dont know what exactly to do from here.
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Listen, being able to move on and being able to travel on a different path comes down to your own self-respect. If you feel this is the respect you deserve, then you will have really hard time to move on. So really, sit down and think about it. Do you really deserve someone who doesn't answer yor calls? That wants things to be over and done with? Someone who doesn't give you the love you want and need? The care you need? The respect you deserve? Is it worth-it to keep trying to make things work with someone who doesn't want it to work anymore?
Relationships, any relationship you make will succeed if both parties work on it together, A relationship cannot work if it is one-sided.
You are having a hard time realizing that things are actually over. You need to connect yourself with reality now. You need to understand that God has someone better out there for you. That He is moving you away from him because he is not what you need.
It's hard, it's tough. Turn to your friends, family and most importantly, turn to Allah (swt). Ask Him for guidance, ask him for forgivevess, ask him for help. Prayer does so much to your soul. Trust me. With your true intention, God will never turn away from you. If you need to cry in prayer, cry. Let it out. I know I have.