Signed onto MSN today and I saw an article on people cheating on their partners - when in marriage or even dating.
http://women.msn.com/514710.armx?gt1=6686
**To really build trust, the betrayed needs to know that the partner definitely won’t cheat again. But how to know? There’s no guaranteed sign, but our experts agree that the overall pattern of the spouse’s behavior is a good indicator. “The issue is, ‘Am I married to a liar?,’” says Glass. “People who have affairs lie about them, but the majority of these people don’t lie about other things.”
Kirshenbaum agrees. In her 25 years as a couples therapist, she has discovered a reliable rule of thumb: “If someone cheats once, a couple can definitely recover if they both sincerely want to rebuild trust. More than once? It’s a lost cause.”
Most couples do recover – and usually emerge closer than ever. “Couples who learn how to work through it together really have a special relationship because it’s like going to hell and back,” says Glass. “This is a couple who know each other on a very deep level, and that can make the marriage very strong.”**
How possible and likely do you think it is for a couple to patch up after a cheating affair and actually do a turn-around and make their relationship much stronger than it was initially?