Just wondered which would hurt you more…
There are two scenarios…
The first involves your significant other having a fling…a solely physical thing with someone…they tell you that that person didnt matter and they just lapsed or whatever and made a mistake…they proceed to tell you that they want to work things out…
The other scenario is you finding out that your significant other has feelings for someone else but hadnt cheated on you…this was someone that they deeply cared for and had feelings for but its not something that they were following up…
So would it hurt more if your significant other had feelings for another woman/man but wasnt doing anything physical or would it hurt more if the significant other was having meaningless flings with guys/gals…
As in are they more accountable for what they do or how they feel in ypur eyes?..
Both would hurt NbyN but I think the second would destroy me physically and emotionally and make me feel like I wasn't good enough whereas the 1st if he was having flings would make me lose respect for him and I'm sure I'd have huge trust issues with him forever and forever..To be truthful both would be horrible for different reasons
But would your prefer the first one cos that way you can break up say and then tell yourself that he was a dick...you would feel better atleast knwoing that its him and not you as such...
With the other one as you said...you wouldnt feel good enough and the feeling of rejection would affect future relationships and ytour own confidence...
Dunno if you agree but id much prefer to be cheated on physically than emotionally cos atleast then you can tell yourself you were better off without them and they were bad etc...
The other scenario is you finding out that your significant other has feelings for someone else but hadnt cheated on you...this was someone that they deeply cared for and had feelings for but its not something that they were following up...
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This is better than being cheated on. It shows that your spouse is not morally corrupt and is honest and honourable. Cheating on the other hand shows dishonesty and moral corruption and can never ever be forgiven.
This is better than being cheated on. It shows that your spouse is not morally corrupt and is honest and honourable. Cheating on the other hand shows dishonesty and moral corruption and can never ever be forgiven.
Seriosuly depends on if you're married to him or not..If married.. it would hurt he is in love with someone else but atleast I am with a faithful man.. a slow killerIf he was busy getting jiggy with everyone.. I would think $hite.. I'm stuck and have a kid with a twat.. It's a hard one.. I pray I'm never in that situation ever
This is better than being cheated on. It shows that your spouse is not morally corrupt and is honest and honourable. Cheating on the other hand shows dishonesty and moral corruption and can never ever be forgiven.
Agree, but only if you find out your spouse has feelings for someone else from your spouse themselves - that would show that they still respect and trust you enough to share.
If you find out that they have feeling for someone else from a third party.... that implies your spouse doesn't trust and respect you enough to be candid with the truth.
i hope i never have to deal with either situation but i'd be hurt more if my partner was someone who slept around with random people. I'd rather be with a person who had feelings for another person than be with a man who is/was corrupt and had no respect for women in general. I honestly wouldn't be with such a guy even if I had children with him coz of serious trust and moral issues.
Frankly i think what the hollywood propagating on this adultry issue is bull crap.
People engage in adultery and then say, oh it was drift, but i don't love that whore, i only love my wife , what BS. And this is being repeated over and over again, so that eventually people buy the idea.
Just wondered which would hurt you more...
There are two scenarios...
The first involves your significant other having a fling...a solely physical thing with someone...they tell you that that person didnt matter and they just lapsed or whatever and made a mistake...they proceed to tell you that they want to work things out...
yeh this happnd 2 moi
he kept on sayin he left all dem gyalz
but i alwayz found out he dint
big mistake 2 fall 4 playerzzzz
so yea i eventually left em
had enuff of it
am jus like screw it...go njoy with em
never saw him 4 2yrz n turnz out ever since i left him he left all thoz galz...actually did becum decent 4 me..itz crazy how much i changed em
Agree, but only if you find out your spouse has feelings for someone else from your spouse themselves - that would show that they still respect and trust you enough to share.
If you find out that they have feeling for someone else from a third party.... that implies your spouse doesn't trust and respect you enough to be candid with the truth.
honestly i wouldnt want it that way. Sometimes you get feelings for some one but get over it after a while, if they ( ur partner) havent acted upon those feelings than i rather not know it. Somethings are better left unsaid.
For me emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. When I found out my husband was sleeping around, it hurt no doubt... but I just blamedhim for being a jerk... i never felt bad about myself... that I was lacking in something, somehow...
But once he carried out a full-blown affair with a woman,bought her gifts, planted his seed in her womb.. I was crushed... completely devastated. The blame shifted from his wandering eye to some sort of shortcoming in myself...
Emotional cheating involves a bond and connection between two people on a higher level... it means somthings missing in the cheater's relationship... besides if they had the chance to, they would also cheat on you physically then...
That being said, if again in the future im cheated on physically... i would consider it a moment of weakness on his part and stay with him...To me, sex isn't that big a deal if its done with some random chick and theres no feelings involved..it's emotional unfaithfulness that I wouldn't tolerate....
I agree with Sabriya...although it does depend on circumstances...if they continuously did it...its not a simple mistake...its a flaw and id leave them straight...
Confucius...
If i was married and my partner loved someone else that would kill me...and it would end the marriage a whole lot quicker than if they made a mistake...
I could forgive physical cheating maybe cos i do believe in lapses and believe people can make mistakes...i also believe that when people make mistakes they can begin to understand what they could lose...i dont subscribe to the whole once a cheater always a cheater thing...life isnt always that simple...
What i couldnt face is someone who is with me but doesnt want to be with me...they dont have that emotional attachment with me which is supposed to be the main component of the relationship...they have that emotional bond with someone else...by cheating physically that bond wont neccesarily break cos you may still believe your partner loves you...what when you know your partner has no feelings for you...could you honestly stay just so you can say hes a good person...
Id take a girl who cares but is flawed over someone who doesnt care...
And as a general point if i had to leave one id much rather leave the one that cheated on me cos atleast its their fault it ended...
.......by cheating physically that bond wont neccesarily break cos you may still believe your partner loves you...what when you know your partner has no feelings for you...could you honestly stay just so you can say hes a good person...
Id take a girl who cares but is flawed over someone who doesnt care...
Your intentions may be noble, but your conclusion are far from reality. You are thinking from a male point of view only. Majority of women don't think like that. If in a relationship, a women is cheating physically, there has to be an emotional aspect to that cheating as well. What I mean is that, as a general rule, a women in a loving relationship will not cheat for physical reasons only. Men may.