I have friend not very close , that i know is cheating on his newly wed wife. He was engaged to his cousin and was head of heals for her, slowly in few years after moving to UK from Pak and re discovering himself as a player stuff, and was committed to his cousin fiancée back in Pakistan even after moving here. but towards the end of his stay in UK he came across this married fat woman who is not even comparable to his finacee. the married woman here spoiled her, flashed with expensive gifts, bought him car, computers etc …
he went back to Pakistan, got married to his cousin and still continues fling with this uk woman. sometime meeting in miday dubai… he fly from pak and she would fly from uk to spent some time together,
then he created excuse to move back to uk that he has to move back and sponsor his wife for uk nationality etc, he came early in uk and his wife followed later.. but during this time he daily been in contact meeting this uk mystery woman.
during this i met his wife and looking at their married life, which guy was though he was my friend ruining it for her. but this guy wouldnt admit and leave not any trace that he has anything, but goes out daily and come back late at night saying its all his business.(he only does online email and call stuff for stuff import from US to Pak) he could do all this at home they rented.
I couple of times asked him to change himself now and dont live dual life, but instead of stopping he now doesnt share anything with me and cause of that I am not good terms with him.
he use to adore his fianee, now treat her like bad and rude always. but now he does out of way to avoid her, he left her here in UK alone in home after first week of her arrival here as his wife. he made business excuse and spent 2 weeks holidays in US with that UK woman.
is it good time to invlove the family and if i have some evidence against my dear friend , should i provide to his cousin wife? so she will have something to challenge this guy as he wouldnt admit he has any on going affair?
i had the information but so far i resisted just it would make me a traitor friend as wife end of the day will tell her husband one day.
Ugh, your friend sounds like a world class jerk. (sorry). But its a sticky thing to get involved in someone elses marital issues. I have a feeling that the wife/cousin that he's married to probably knows that something is going on. Us gals have a certain sense when somethings going on....
His wife has a right to know if he is cheating on him or not and if you know your friend is not being fair with his wife and you got evidence too then you should tell his wife the reasons for him being away for so long……I think you should’ve done that a while ago…..before they even got married that is if you knew abt his affair with this uk women before theie wedding…….and I think you should definitely involve his and her family if you know them personally sometimes elders can help the couple get on the track but only if ur frd realizes that he is commiting a sin by sharing his wife's time with a na mahraam......
Don't involve yourself, wives generally have a pretty good idea of whats going on, some choose to look the other way and by bringing it out in open you may force them to take an action they don't want to take.
May be the newly wed does want to get UK nationality and then get rid of him.
as a side note, i've seen so many fat white women with desi guys!! it makes me feel so bad for the white girls (i guess their own society rejects them) and it also makes me grossed out by the desi guys who smell their desperation n use them!
If she is a young naiive girl from Pakistan, she may not realize what her husband is up to. This is a tough one. Amour, if I were you, I think I would slip in a note anonymously. But there should be support available to her over there because if she confronts her husband, he could get abusive and all. But some careful action does need to be taken.
Send proof to the wife and her family anonymously and make sure it is comprehensive also if you know the married gori's address send it to her husband. this should burst the bubble your friend and gori are living in.
If she is a young naiive girl from Pakistan, she may not realize what her husband is up to. This is a tough one. Amour, if I were you, I think I would slip in a note anonymously. But there should be support available to her over there because if she confronts her husband, he could get abusive and all. But some careful action does need to be taken.
THis is good. If you are choosing to get involved, do so in a way where the girl has a choice to keep it quiet or tell the family. Its her choice after she finds out what she wants to do with the information. Does she have family or friends in UK?
well his wife already know about this other women, through another friend of his husband and plus his behavior, she knows about it why he is absent from home more oftenly. I didnt have to break the ice for this. She knows and cry about it, she tried to confront him, but he denies on her face as she doesnt has any proof or evidence about the affair. She knew the other women by face too and met her once or twice in common gathering.
She has asked me many times to help her in this regard, as i have some information that can help her, she has now told her and his parents and he denied again of any wrong doing, so she asked me again so she can expose him and sort out this within family.
and btw the other women in this is not a gori but a Pakistani born here, married to guy from back home and now separated I guess( i am not sure as i dont know her personally)
sara its true man is know by the company he keeps, well I dont keep such company, he is actually friend of a class fellow. otherwise I am very picky in choosing friends and keeping them for life. i only helped him as friend of friend in trouble when he was chucked out by his landlord and had to house him and wife for couple of weeks in my house, during that we came to know all that was going on..
It looks like you are already involved so give proof to the girls parents and the guys parents of they turn a blind eye or deny it then help to empower your friends wife so she can move on with her life. Try to introduce her to girls you know who the girl can trust.
Having an affair is a big no no and if you and your friend interacts in place with a lot of people seriously just let it out in the open that they are having an affair. People will talk about them they might get shunned or embarrassed.
If that does not work then the girl need to speak to molvi + solicitor and draw out an islamic and legal separation as her husband is treating her like a door mat. I suggest you tell the wife to treat her cheating husband with indifference and show him you know what she does not need him. Tell her to stop doing any chores for him and to go out with friends, if she isn't working tell her to find a job so she is financially independent. From this she can show her husband that she can have a better life without him. Also tell her not act desperate and clingy.
^^^ thats against my ethics as I am married already and i am least attracted to anybodys wife. I dont share things!
they are not embarrassed as no body know about it from all families apart from his wife. yea it would have even work if this third woman family knew about her affair with this guy as they would be embarrassed that their daughter playing dirty.
she has told everybody around her family and guys mother, the person who can make difference guys father still doesnt know about this and mother planely refused his shareef son can do such things. they need proofs, information has been passed to her "annoymously" it upto her now how she use that for positive as situation is worst as they are first cousins with two "wata sata" marriages from mum sides.
done it already now. well if she was my sister, I would have thrashed the guy very bad and ask her to break this marriage. but his wife want it to work out the problems and get rid of this outsider women in marriage. I hope she succeeds, when they were moving to england i suggested her without telling the reason, if you want to have good life stay away from England. she is waiting it to be solved and her hubby will come back to her one day by her good behaviour.
