If you have met some good friends of the opposite gender over chat and met then in real life and spend good time with them and there has been no flirt etc in the friendship and you didnt have any contact with this/these friends for a while, and suddenly you meet them after your engagement, would you then invite them for your wedding?and wud u consider it wrong to have contact with them when thinking of what your finacee wud think of it?
guys girls…how would you feel of it?
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...at the end of the day if they're your friends, why would your fiance object to it, on events like engagments parties and all everyone likes for their friends to be in attendance and give their blessing.
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depends sumtimes on the situation and what your fiance is like,
if he has no problems then fine,
but u dont want to hurt his feelings either,
maybe if you introduced your friends to your fiance he got to talk to them then it should be ok
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its not him..its me who is getting jealous of his friend who is married btw and seems like a nice girl...
just me..
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just me..
*It all boils down to whether or not you trust him. *
If for some reason, you trust him 110%, then let him invite his female friends to the wedding. After all, I'm sure he's going to come across women at his work and stuff, it's not like you can completely stop him from meeting/talking/becoming friends with other women.
On the other hand, if you don't trust him completely, then let him know you don't want his female friends at your wedding.
My personal advice would be that if this guy never gave you any reason to suspect that there might be something "fishy" between him and any of his female friends, and if this girl is married, then go ahead and invite her AND her husband to your wedding.
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he is inviting her to the wedding, not on a date :-/
If its bothering you that hes in touch with her then thats a whole different story. Islamically, hes not suppose to be chattign with a girl anyways :D
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it does sometimes look dodgy if you invite friends of the opposite sex to your wedding.....especially in desi weddings.....and the inlaws side may see it as a bad thing....
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I dont think its a good idea to have friends of the opposite gender after u are married. That goes for both guys and girls. The potential for misunderstandings and sum kind of issue occuring is just not worth it. If u feel that ur friendship with a person of the opposite gender is more important then the risk of messing up ur marriage then u shud prolly not have got married in the first place.
But its different if ur mangetars friend is married. Then u guys are inviting both her and her hubby to ur wedding. r inviting the couple so thats another story. Shudnt be anything wrong wit that. Dont be jealous.
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just me..
:D
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From the female friends perspective…its extremely rude not to invite her and you will just be making a big deal out of nothing, if you have nosy people like we do here then they will talk crap. This guy that I used to be friends with, who according to some people liked me didnt invite me to his wedding but invited everyone else from the school or atleast that group of people and everyone was talking about how he didnt invite me, what was on his mind, etc etc. I know his girl friend hated me for the two years that we were in school together like I am some vulture whoes gonna snatch him away 
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just me..
Why are you getting jealous? The girl is already married, so she will mostlikely attend with her husband, and she's going to be coming to your wedding, which is a clear sign that your fiance is no longer available. :D
Hmm, I don't really think it should be an issue. You don't need to announce to all the guest and in-laws that they are online friends .... I don't think it would be awkward if he is inviting his other friends, both males and females. If he's not inviting any of his other friends, then it would be different.
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thanks for your comments:) makes me look differently at things:)
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guys girls...how would you feel of it?
:( could not help reading this
freindship can exist b/w opp genders as long as your fiancee or hubby or
lover or hubby to 2b knows about them . Off the wall meetings or calls or
rendevous would be very hard for you and your fiancee to accept i guess
so heartbroken already my opinions may be biased but thats all i could come up with :( do not give some so close so attached to you for reasons to
doubt or actions to doubt. but then again i may be biased coz of :(