First time poster, long time reader.
I have a question related to approaching (desi) women at a wedding function; how does one do it without coming off as completely baysharam and not being disregarded. I would like to try to and do it without enlisting for aunty aid.
So single girls, how would u like a guy to approach you at a wedding function, if at all? Do you prefer he go by way of elders?
Gentlemen, have you ever managed to secure the positive attention of a girl successfully at such an event? Do you have any stories of failure that could help some of us less enlightened?
And finally, is this not wise? Would it be a better idea to just by way of aunties and family. I just want to look myself. We have a few weddings coming up and im trying to go in prepared lol
Thanks!
I usually am uncomfortable because even though my parents are very chill and okay with me interacting with boys, I think it's weird to do so so brazenly in front of other people. It's fine in a group but if I'm standing alone and a guy approaches me, I just...politely answer and then walk away.
There is a very thin line! U ought to be smart and tackle the situation well. Also it would vary from girl to girl, some may be more open then the others. You gotta figure that out and act accordingly.
Easier said than done its not fun to see them so uncomfortable because of my presence. Not saying im a complete monster to be around but as u can see from the responses, girls may not be so comfortable about it or have the right opiniom about you.
you see a girl that you are genuinely interested in and hopefully you have good intentions.
drop something on the floor next to her and then pick it up and ask her if she dropped this. That would at least give you a path into starting a conversation with her. Does that seem like something that would give positive results? Hopefully she doesn't act snooty...
There are some guys that are just gifted when it comes to looking into a girls eyes and they can make her putty in their hands. Unfortunately those guys are the playas and never serious. I think you should just have your friend, sister or cousin sister help you as in family members.
does that mean that you would prefer it if guys didnt approach u in such situations?
It depends in the mannerism I suppose, but I'd rather not be seen chatting it up with a rando guy in the corner of a wedding hall full of aunties and uncles. It's fine if we're in a group or I'm with a couple of friends. Again, there's also a difference in how guys approach you even at these things and their tactics have ranged from acceptable to cringeworthy to completely insulting.
U need a wing woman... a sis or a cousin etc. someone who could ease u into someone's personal space without making it look obvious or awkward for the other girl. So ur wing woman is essentially a buffer to prevent all aunties uncles eyeing u and then later talking about ur brazen display of rishta hunting or flirting... whichever one it was. Good luck!
I've noticed guys try and bring my big camera into the conversation to start talking when I have been randomly taking pics. The starting line is usually "that's a crazy/big camera, what kind is it if you don't mind me asking?"
The last one is a good idea. Then you swoop in pretending to look for your sister and she introduce you lol
Thats worth a try I reckon. A big problem is being able to gauge the girl and find the right timing to approach. Timing I feel can make or break.
So to you, a girl who is conscious of of the aunties and uncles looking, best would be to approach you with friends. However, being in ur friends’ company, would u be more inclined to have a conversation or would it be kinda embarassing?
Thats worth a try I reckon. A big problem is being able to gauge the girl and find the right timing to approach. Timing I feel can make or break.
So to you, a girl who is conscious of of the aunties and uncles looking, best would be to approach you with friends. However, being in ur friends' company, would u be more inclined to have a conversation or would it be kinda embarassing?
No I wouldn't necessarily be embarassed if I was with my friends, but you probably won't get the response you're looking for if you walk up to a girl when she's with a full posse. Maybe 1-2 other girls. I just think most girls are going to shy away from having any sort of lengthy convo with you alone in front of a bunch of other aunties/uncles so that would be the middle ground. I've become friends with a few guys that came and joined our circle of friends at a wedding and it wasn't awkward at all.
Id prefer it if the guy produced an engagement ring there and then and got married the next day..... lol
I always thought if someone was interested then id like him to go through my parents. That is until it actually happened. I found out this guy approached my parents who i did not even know of at all (he was from the other side). I was livid and so close to pouring water on him as he was turned around (sometimes i get so angry i cannot see sense lol).
So i dont like it when guys approach my parents and even less when they approach me. I have no hope lol.
its not fun to see them so uncomfortable because of my presence. Not saying im a complete monster to be around but as u can see from the responses, girls may not be so comfortable about it or have the right opiniom about you.