If you start out as friends with someone of the opposite gender, can you “see” them as more than a friend, namely develop romantic feelings for them or do you get stuck in how you classify someone at the beginning of a relationship?
And in the opposite situation, if you begin as romantic partners, if things don’t work out, can you see the other person as “just a friend” and continue a relationship with them?
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No I never had any such romantic feelings.
I only make friendship to those to whom I dont have any romantic feelings.
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Hah had a long discussion about this with friends a few years back.
If a girl puts a guy in her "good friend" category, it is hard as hell for the guy to get into her "possible husband" category. Not so with the guys though - the two categories mostly overlap :D
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It was a guy who asked me the question :) We were talking about a guy friend of mine and he couldn't figure out why I didn't consider the guy-friend as a potential mate. I dunno, for me because the guy began as a "friend" I never saw him as anything else. In fact, I was actively trying to set him up with girls I knew because he is such a great guy and a great catch.
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If you start out as friends with someone of the opposite gender, can you "see" them as more than a friend, namely develop romantic feelings for them or do you get stuck in how you classify someone at the beginning of a relationship?
And in the opposite situation, if you begin as romantic partners, if things don't work out, can you see the other person as "just a friend" and continue a relationship with them?
No and no.
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yes and yes.
i say go for it Sehrysh!
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If you start out as friends with someone of the opposite gender, can you "see" them as more than a friend, namely develop romantic feelings for them or do you get stuck in how you classify someone at the beginning of a relationship?
And in the opposite situation, if you begin as romantic partners, if things don't work out, can you see the other person as "just a friend" and continue a relationship with them?
Well really depends though. If you see a lot of things common between you two then it is more likely that romantic feelings might develop. Also, though there are lot of things common between you two..you probably never given a thought or you are just simply not physically
attracted to him.
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It can happen, I think.
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I agree. Go for it Sehrysh! 
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You and Afshi are so funny 
It’s NOT about ME, even though I used an example from my life.
It’s about whether people other than me can move a person from one slot into another when circumstances surrounding a relationship change.
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I agree 
ahaha
But yes, both of those circumstances can happen. The first one is a rather beautiful thing, because it is pretty unexpected. The second one takes a lot of time to get to, because it’s not always the easiest thing to get your head around. Most times a clean break with no contact is usually best for both parties, but sometimes, that friendship is worth salvaging.
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Hey, nothing like developing romantic feelings for a friend. And usually, the feelings are mutual. [My real life story :D].
The opposite situation...well that happens too. Oh well.
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i don't know whether the second one you mentioned is possible for everybody though, if two people were in a romantic relationship and then broke up, I personally wouldn't want to stay friends with him especially if it was a bad/not great breakup
but the first one is definitely possible
the ones that have experienced the first one, developing romantic feelings for a friend, the way you see them changes but then how do you approach them and admit you feel that way about them especially when you know that the feelings are mutual. i know it's hard for me to do it b/c all this time you've seen them as only a friend.......