I should learn a thing or two from your story Seema. Sometimes I tend to judge people too early esp. like the one you described. But you should give some credit to yourself that you brought about a change in Mr. J’s attitude :k:
smiles
Welcome to the wonders of life 
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if i were u i would still need ALOT more to change my perspective :p
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may b m still a lil judgmental :)
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Can you please write in English?
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sum how i can't recall invitin u here :p
So, what do you ladies think of me after reading this ‘eye-opener’? 
u r not even 1/10000000000000 times cute s him 
and when did you see me? those dreams of me don't count.
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*Originally posted by Nadia_H: *
The best part is that, when you asked him why he was at the hospital, he didn't even tell you what he was doing...he kept that part hidden. Most people would've blabbed it for the whole world to know. Anyways, may Allah give him his just rewards Insha'Allah...and help us all to show the same kindness and regard towards others.
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tx 4 da reply nadia, i was least xpectin u here :)
Seema I still don't really think he ever hit on you. The lady he lit the ciggy for...it's not like he held her down till she agreed to getting her ciggy lighted. And amongst smokers that a very common thing...to offer to light anothers cig.
Most of the stuff you mentioned is pretty friendly and harmless stuff. Like the statement at the bowling place. He knew he was good so he said it jokingly and he even won! I don;t know why you took offense.
Anyway I'm glad you found out for yourself what a nice person he was.
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and when did you see me? those dreams of me don't count.
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but da nitemarez do na :p
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Seema I still don't really think he ever hit on you. The lady he lit the ciggy for...it's not like he held her down till she agreed to getting her ciggy lighted. And amongst smokers that a very common thing...to offer to light anothers cig.
Most of the stuff you mentioned is pretty friendly and harmless stuff. Like the statement at the bowling place. He knew he was good so he said it jokingly and he even won! I don;t know why you took offense.
Anyway I'm glad you found out for yourself what a nice person he was.
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Femme, good observations and actually, I thought of it along the same lines while reading seema's pinky. But, you have to admit that Mr. Jerk didn't take into consideration the environment he was in. Seema being the only girl at the business lunch, he should not have made that comment of girls her age call him 'dear'.
omg FF that was hilarious 
p.s. i dont think Seema was saying that he was ‘hitting on her’. ive been in this situation too where when some guy does something, he’s not hitting on u, but it does make u feel uncomfy, could be for a million reasons. the point being though why shud some aera ghera dude or female for that matter come and make u feel uncomfy?
like some guy thinks its ok to come and tap u on ur back to ask u a question. sure, his intentions r ok, but u dont like it and u certainly dont want it happenning again. doesnt mean u think he’s hitting on u.
these situationz r kinda hard to handle coz u dont want the person thinking u’re thinking he’s hitting on u, u dont want him thinking u’re stuck up and uptight but u also want ppl to not be too free.
you’d THINK that a pakistani guy would understand these things, he surely has his own sisters and female cousins, and would stay in the limits defined by society.
i’m not buying the “all guys r innocent” act. some guys get some kinda kick out of annoying girls and its totally true that some of then R sleazy n flirty. like those pathan dudes who say mashallah to girls passing by. whats that?
I guess ur right about that too. He shouldn’t have said so if she as the only girl there.
Most girls in Pakistan, esp the ones who don;t have many male friends (I was one of them too many years ago) take offense too quickly anyway. It’s like anyone who smiles at u is hitting on you, everyone who makes a joke with you is flirting with you.
Irem getting in contact physically isn’t at all okay not even here, whether its just tapping or whatever. But we girls do get uncomfy real quick too. I taught at this private school for a couple of months in pakistan and I laugh over the things I used to feel uncomfortable about. I used to look like danger sign warning the guys not to talk to me. I still do actually. It was aok as long as kids were talking but male teachers, even if they smiled I would want to tell them to get lost. That’s not right. There were other girls who used to mess around and have fun with the guy teachers all the time and I couldn’t understand how they took the liberty to be so frank. Now that I think about it I was the one who was weird not them.
@ pathan dudes. You get the spanish variety here. Sometimes if you are walking and one of the retards happens to pass by in his car he will deliberately slow down and say something. What do you do!!!
tx 4 da input irem n FF
n FF m not sum 1 da galz who hvn’t encountered guyz much. i was literally raised along em like em. ask any guppy male friend here who has met m n they’ll tell da attitude i hv wid da guyz i hang around wid. it’s just dat k i hv certain limits n i 1st try 2 make those limits clear before hand wid da malez i encounter.
i neva said dat k Mr. J was hittin on m, coz it can’t b da reality eva, i can’t even imagine dat. his background, his hi profile, his personality cummon v were seprated by 7 planets, i wud b kiddin maself if i wud b thinkin like dat.
it was just dat k ev buddy in ma dept infakt da whole bank respected m alot, it just seemed v odd if sum1 asked u in front of all of em 2 call him ** DEAR ** , m really not use 2 such stuff :). qassam say na @ dat time i was literally finkin 2 empty up dat fruit trifle ka bharra hua bowl on his head 
For those of you who can’t read the pink font..you can simply highlight Simply Seema’s post by clicking and dragging the mouse on the content of her post to make it more readable. I’m sorry I don’t have a suggestion for the shortcuts she uses…bus dua kariaN… khuda in font waloN ko hadayat day.
Sorry for the interruption…please continue
Ok I tried reading it but gave up after the 1st 3 lines … 
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hey i had not read the last post..
OMG
that is soooooo cool yaar
seriously thats too nice of Mr J mashallah
hmmm well thats really cool thanks for sharing seema
n yeah u r totally right we should not judge others...which is my biggest mistake which i always do
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well da best lesson dat i got frm da xperience was dat k individuality of a human being is quite complex. His/Her personality is effected by his family background, Social circle, geographical location, upbringing, class ...................... there is a looooooong list of factorz effecting 1s nature.
u know irem v r v lucky dat v have been raised n brot up v well by our familiez n v hv got our moral valuez intact 2 a certain xtent but not many ppl r lucky like us na. may b sum of em r frm broken familiez, may b sum has got sum bad xperiencez, may b sum 1 is simply lonely n all theze effects da personality.
like in Mr. J's case he didn't even knew k wat he was doin was wrong coz no buddy told him dat. he was doin wat he had been doin 4 yearz. so b4 judgin otherz v shud @least analyze other's situation. i m not sayin k v shud start worryin abt her aira ghaira natthu khaira but @least wid da ppl v suppose 2 spend sum time.
u did so much research on ma post
m flattered na
No problem na
It's just that i don't feel like working today, na ;-)
huh newbeez n in k nakhray 