i never have been the kind to dislike people or someone, i mean i can usually find an excuse for myself to deter myself from disliking an indvidual..
but for past few months i find myself changing. I dont want to like people. I cant find myself forgiving them for things. im becoming unfriendly
anyone else find themselves changing?
maybe its not that u dont like people, ur just starting to accept them for who they are..its fun being unfriendly. When i see a little kid running i usually try to trip them with my foot
haha ur cruel Aisha.. my friend does the same.. if sees a baby sleeping, she'll wake em up and make em cry... then pretend to be all caring
i think im just beginning to not care... im sick of being the nice one who makes the effort (this new me is not good)
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Aishaaa1: *
..its fun being unfriendly. When i see a little kid running i usually try to trip them with my foot
[/QUOTE]
Dang Aisha living with you must be hell!
I think ever since I started university I've become a very cold and reserved person, just like you I am becoming merciless especially with my old friends and I hate it, I am not the same bouncy high school person I was before.
There is only so much of being treated like crap people can handle. I know, the politically correct thing to say would be to just let dogs lie and continue being nice. Well, if someone treats you badly, there is no need to be nice to them. That doesn’t mean that you go out of your way to be rude … it just means you stand up for yourself.
There’s nothing wrong with that Sadzzz.
Aishaaaa … 
thanx paki maryum and Mehnaz 
yeah i dont think im going out of my way to be rude.. but im not letting myself be nice either.
ie a so called friend came back from pakistan, but ive refused to ask her how her trip was as she never asked about mine.. i feel like a 5 yr old.. but i just dont feel like making an effort where noone appreciates it..
saddzzz .. man sometimes you're like my twin lol
I have been going through this very same problem these past few weeks..
It's just that I've become too nice, too forgiving and too patient with people lately.
I think I've been working with children too long now and that's the problem lol
This past week.. I was so furious ! arrgghh!
Just about everyone I know kept bombarding me with their idiotic problems and I just wanted to tell them all off and this really scared me!
Well I am feeling a little better now...
although this does come after telling off a few people who really deserved it.. I've got this wonderful reputation of being so calm and understanding...which I am ..so when they do see me mad ...lol it usually doesnt take much for them to get the message :)
Don't be afraid to say no to people ... and if they are getting on your nerves.. well sometimes getting a little angry with them can be a good thing.
i have actually become the opposite. i used to get upset over very small details and now i’m really making an effort to stay calm and learn to be patient.
i think the amount of stress in our own lives definitely dictates how we react to the people around us, even our closest friends and family members. sometimes stress from school or work can get us so edgy that even small things get us upset. we just have to make an active effort to not let that happen.
Hmm, I think I have started to improve on some things, but a little too slowly. I've been advised of certain faults of mine and I am trying to work on them, but it's tough. I'm of the view that I am on the bottom rung of the ladder and the only way to go is UP.
I think as you grow older your priorities change and although some of it may be seen as being selfish, I find that some selfishness is good. But thats another discussion. smile
thanks guysy
zidee before i would get all sad if i made someone angry or if someone wasnt behaving appropriately.. but now im more like good riddens and dont have the patience to be nice.. i mean im more calm about it as i dont react.. but then i know they are noticing the difference cus im nto making the effort to talk… and i have no intentions too…
..before if someone hurt me id prob talk to them and id be the one saying sorry... infact i was doing this up till january.. ever since ive come back frmo pakistan, i dont feel like accepting peoples attitudes.. i mean i just want them to realise that just cus i dont say anything doesnt make it ok for u to keep on doing it... i know im making no sense.. but aagh
i know what you mean sadzzz and i kind of agree with munni too.
as we grow older we change in ways that sometimes surprise us.
sometimes we become a little more selfish and other times we become a little selfless...either one can be good for you depending on the stage you are in your life!
i hope i return to my old self... even though it bugs my friends to an extent where they have to force me to be mean..
if you are not saying anything to people that make you mad, then you are keeping it all inside and that is not good for you.
i would rather you told someone how you felt and got it out in the open than to hurt yourself by keeping it all inside.
and sadzzz, its okay to get angry sometimes. you are human. and if the same ppl are repeatedly getting you that upset then re-evaluate whether you really need them in your life.
i've had "friends" that have lied to me blatantly, without any real reason...and i just couldn't take it...so, i cut them out of my life. this was a long time ago. but if some one repeatedly behaves in a manner that is not acceptable to you, then you should take a stand and make your opinion known.
even if it means you are coming off mean!
remember back in july i told you i had to work with someone at work that was REALLY REALLY BAD...well, i had to evaluate him at the end of hte month and he received a bad eval from me. because i couldn't lie. and that made me feel bad, that i was mean to someone...but you know in that situation it had to be done.
as i'm sure in your situation, you had to be mean.
yeah i remember zidee.. that was really good cus if u hadnt told him then someone would have sooner or later
the person bugging me at the moment is a person at work. She continously annoys me (not that she means to) but when she starts bad mouthing my friends and makes them feel rotten, i feel no respect for her. And to think once i was friends with her and helped organise her wedding
what!! at least i dont bugg sleeping babies, and dont tell me none of u have ever tripped annoying kids
sadzzz its the scariest when nice people(like u), get mad, b/c u dont expect it, and when they get mad its like oh dear what just happened. Its okay to be nice, just make sure people arent taking advantage of you
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Aishaaa1: *
what!! at least i dont bugg sleeping babies, and dont tell me none of u have ever tripped annoying kids
sadzzz its the scariest when nice people(like u), get mad, b/c u dont expect it, and when they get mad its like oh dear what just happened. Its okay to be nice, just make sure people arent taking advantage of you
[/QUOTE]
aishaaa1 - i can honestly say... I HAVE NEVER tripped annoying kids.
and you are right when you say its scary when nice ppl get mad, but we sometimes forget they are human too...they need let off steam.
why is it that we put people in categories...
nice people - not allowed to get mad
strong people - not allowed to cry
weak people - not allowed to show strength
we put ppl in these boxes and get surprised when they do something outside of the box...its just not fair!
and sadzzz - ppl change. maybe you just need to tell this person that you don't appreciate her making fun of your other friends. i know its difficult to do that, but try it once and it'll come easier after that.
i do it all the time. if someone is bad mouthing someone that i really like. i'll let them give their opinion and then just say...i've never had a bad experience with that person. or he/she is great to me...so i like him/her and not get taken in by peer pressure. (which exists even in adulthood; its not just for teens)
CA thanx.. the person actually doesnt bad mouth them infront of me or to my friends, but news travels fast...
i know i shouldnt believe in whatever thats been said.. but sometimes when u know the exact mentality of the person, then ur obliged to believe...
i dont think shes worth the trouble.. but one day i may just crack
[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
CA thanx.. the person actually doesnt bad mouth them infront of me or to my friends, but news travels fast...
i know i shouldnt believe in whatever thats been said.. but sometimes when u know the exact mentality of the person, then ur obliged to believe...
i dont think shes worth the trouble.. but one day i may just crack
[/QUOTE]
if you think she really deserves it, then go ahead and crack! but don't feel bad about it later. cuz whats done is done. and she must have deserved it, for you to give it to her!
^ haha i will one day when it gets to that point... but i have to work with her...
personally the silent treatment is the worst killer!