I have 3 siblings, one sister who is a year older than me and two younger brothers.
Last year my sister got married and moved out to another country.
Now the relationship with my sister before she got married was one like every other sister-sister relationship(I think?!) —> argueing on little things (you jook my jeans without asking me!!) not touchy/feely at all and generally not really communicating. I always used to envy sisters who shared everything with eachother and went out shopping together etc (something I never did with my sis)
Then she moved out and slowly ‘everything’ changed. I now call her on every little thing, just to hear her opinion or ask advice. I’ve visited her twice since she moved out and we spent soo much time together, we did more shopping together in 2 weeks than we did in our whole life… We are now very touchy/huggy and it freaks me out at times.Strange, isn’t it, how relationships change when you don’t see the person as often as you used to.
And that’s not all, my relationship with my brothers has changed also, ever since my sister got married. I’m now the eldest, and even though they still don’t call me ‘baji’ sigh I do get more respect
I think, now that your sister is away, she has realised all the things that she missed out with you, like shopping, going out together. There must be a partly guilty feeling from your sister, that she is away from you and partly she must miss the times you had together. Its all part of life, things might change again, they allways do.
My experience, before marriage of my elder sister, we did everything together, I was so dependend on her advice, that I would not buy anything without asking her opinion. but after she left we were not so close like before .. after a few years she realized that she has neglected me, but then I did not wanted to be close to her .. now she wants to meet me everytime she is free but I don’t
hey Shinoo.. that sounds so good.. u give me hope that Inshallah the relationship b/w me and my bro will improve.. me and him are always arguing.. more cus we enjoy it not cus we're angry with one another... my sis is like 6 years younger... we get along well with her.. i mean she gets along with my bro.. and me and her are always chit chatting.. shopping.. going out.. so its real sweet..
lekin yeah with my bro... aaaaagh! hehe :) i love him to bits.. and cus he's so stone cold.. it freaks me out.. but then on the other hand i know he does things just to tick me off..
im happy u and ur sis have grown closer... it makes such a huge difference doesnt it..? and dont worry.. not all sisters are touchy feely.. u dont need to be like that to show how much u love someone... that stuff is soo artificial.... my sis and i never hug.. and on birthdays hehe.. well its like torture.. :)
i LOVE my sister…shes a year younger then me…but we have been through thick and thin, good and bad…ya ya ya u might say were only 18 and 17…but the point is…just few years back we were like lil immature freaks…screaming at each other…‘u took that’…‘thats not fair’…‘i hate u’ bla bla bla…
anyway…since then…i mean now that we both have grown up its amazing…how much we both have changed…now it seems…we both CAN NOT live without each other…we have never fought for over 3 years…humne kubhi aik doosre se oonchi zaban mein baat ni ki…we go out together…we share EVERYTHING…we tell each other EVERYTHING…girlie secrets and crushes……etc…
sometimes i think what and where could i be without her?..and sometimes i think she’s amazing…and i thank Allah miyan for letting me have her as a sis…i cant spend even a day without her…i feel so lonely and empty…:(…when she cries i start crying…and…and…i dont even want to leave her…ever…:(…
I can understand your feelings about this very well, because since my sister moved to Egypt after her wedding, I miss her very much too. However our relationship hasn't really changed. We still talk with each other as openly as before. The only difference is, that she is not here.
The relationship between my sister and my little brother has changed dramatically though. For some reason I don't really know, he got along with everyone in the family really well, except my sister. Now that she is not here anymore, he is missing her just as much as we do. He is always excited about talking with her online or on the phone. When she was here, he wouldn't even have a proper conversation with her.
Yes Umer, I miss my sis a lot and I’m kinda glad that our relationship has changed.
Now what I want to know it what about sisters who get married and move to their husbands place who lives in the same city/neighbourhood or whatever. Does that also change the relationship b/w siblings?! Cuz you do get to see eachother, maybe not as much as before but still ur close (geographically)
And what about when you get married but ur husband/wife is not with you. Like that happens a lot, doesnt it( the actual rukhsati is doesn’t take place right after the nikkah.) Does that change the relationship?
Now what I want to know it what about sisters who get married and move to their husbands place who lives in the same city/neighbourhood or whatever. Does that also change the relationship b/w siblings?! Cuz you do get to see eachother, maybe not as much as before but still ur close (geographically)
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my in laws n my parents live in same city .....all i can say is it helped me a lot ....though it wasn't the same as before but it was good ....my relationship with my siblings didn't change ....infact it improved ...we used to visit eachother frequently :)...but well my relationship with my cousins did change a bit ....we were toooo close before i got married but couldn't remain that way after that ....though nothing serious happened but before my marriage i always wanted to visit them when i'm free ....afterwards i prefered my parents n siblings...:)
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And what about when you get married but ur husband/wife is not with you. Like that happens a lot, doesnt it( the actual rukhsati is doesn't take place right after the nikkah.) Does that change the relationship?
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hmm....i experienced this too .....i had to wait for my visa after we got married .....n now too , he lives most of time in netherlands (coz of business _)...n i'm in germany .... it doesn't change intensity in relationship, in my view....but its not the way usually it is when you live together ...i mean we don't get much time to fioght with each other :)
I dont know about others but i became Very close with my sister who moved to norway after she got married ....it is strange that now i share every thing with her ...it wasnt like that before ! i think it is because when some of yours beloved move far away from you tabi unn ki importaness pata chalti hai anyway sisters are great :-) and i am lucky i have 2 sisters .
yeah same here..me n my sister(older) used to fight alot! but in her senior year of high school we sorta started to get along..but we still do fight sometimes..and when she moved to college i did miss her a lil..but our relationship really hasn't changed THAT much, but it's better than what it was b4
hehe at the taking clothes..ider be yehi hota hai..i jus hate when my sis wears my clothes widout asking..i can't wear hers cus they are big on me, but she can fit into mine. don't like that at all!
and same here i do envy all the sisters that get along and love each other soo much, makes me feel all jealous..but our relationship is improving a lil as time goes :D
but after she left we were not so close like before .. after a few years she realized that she has neglected me, but then I did not wanted to be close to her .. now she wants to meet me everytime she is free but I don’t 
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