Re: change perceived negatively
Changing for the better should never be discouraged. God knows how much we need positive change!
sadzzz you've made good points, it does become an ego war, sadly. People get so defensive like they're supposed to be perfect. Human beings don't like criticism and it's not easy I know but I hope one can come to grips with reality and understand their weaker areas.
Oh and both partners need to be open to this. I think the biggest turn off is when one partner is forever trying to improve the other and not themselves at all!