I agree with you sadzzz. They have to change for good.
Most of the time ppl want to change you because they are jealous of you and want to change just to hurt you.
Whoever loves you and want happiness then he instead of trying to change you will change him or herself. There is no need to ask.
But some ppl try to change you to let you down, to hurt you or make you sad.
dude!!!!
larkion sy bateen ker ker tumhara dimadgh bhi ult ho gia.
sound like a guppan now!!
Well between men and woman , who ever feel uncomfortable some thing should express it!!
Openly and honestly. And both should be able to present there case.
And if person agree with his/her spouse point of view, then he/she should alter her/his way.