I agree with you sadzzz. They have to change for good.
Most of the time ppl want to change you because they are jealous of you and want to change just to hurt you.
Whoever loves you and want happiness then he instead of trying to change you will change him or herself. There is no need to ask.
But some ppl try to change you to let you down, to hurt you or make you sad.
i dont agree..
people may ask u to change for ur benefit, not to hurt you or upset u.. or to make u feel bad.. instead they may point out something that may help you in bettering yourself..
and there is nothing wrong with that..
thats what im trying to say.. if ur hubby or wife asks you to change a habit of yours.. it DOES NOT mean that they are hurting you or are jealous of u... it could simply mean that they see an opportunity for you to become an even better person..
what is so insulting about that? only loves makes you want to see ur spouse that way. How can that be perceived negatively..
yes yes.. if they love you they should accept you as you are... but if they love you, they will also want to help you succeed in all different aspects of life.. isnt that what true love is?