Re: Chances of getting married again
my dad's first cousin got married in extended family and moved to UK (She was 21 and the guy was 20 at that time) . There she found out abt the gori girl her husband has been dating. He clearly told her that he has been forced into marraige and he will not continue to be with her. The marriage ended in divorce.
Parents didn't try to get her married again and she remained unmarried for 15 years after her divorce. Then in 2007 out of nowhere a rishta of a divorced guy came for her , they just had one meeting in her home and both of them agreed to marray each other. She is extremely happy in her marriage now Masha Allah. And to be honest she was 40 when she married again , she is not beautiful , she gained alot of weight and she has only completed school and was also not working. Despite all odds she got married again.
I firmly believes that its all NASEEB. Allah is fair and He pays you back for your sufferings. We need to just have patience and trust Him He will do good to you.
On the other hand I know someone from my inlaws whose 1st marriage ended in divorce bcuz her inlaws treated her worse than a slave. She got marraied again now her inlaws are no better and she sometimes suffer physical abuse too. But now she is too scared to end her marriage again and has accepted everything as her fate. It's all NASEEB.
I personally think that both man and woman has a right to live their lives in a decent way. Abuse is not always physical , it could be mental and emotional too and sometimes it does get very difficult for a person to survive the abuse. We should not JUDGE anyone , only the person who is experiencing a bad situation knows the pain and suffering and the sufferer has every right to make a decision for him/her self. We should noway disrespect anyone for being divorced.
But I also believe that PATIENCE and FAITH IN ALLAH should always be there just don't give in very quickly , try and try hard Allah will Help u. Husband & Wife relation is meant to be valued and kept from both sidess!