gotcha... thanks for the clarification.
but who is say that someone has a genuine case or not? certainly not you and I.
What may seem like an easy way out to you may not be viewed as such for the couple involved.
CB ..majority of people..especially Muslims do seek divorce as a last resort. No one in their right mind wants to be dragged through hell (ie the divorce process) for the heck of it....most people think through it before jumping the gun and even more so when kids are involved.
AE .. There are certain things that form a part of a society , culture and ultimately have an effect on our lives. Divorce is one such thing. It is strongly condemned in Islam. If it becomes so common and seen as an acceptable deed , then obviously it will become part of our culture , society and come back to bite us when our generations will think its alright to divorce and ignore Allah's strong condemnation of this deed.
Nj's question was about divorce being still considered a big taboo in our culture ... and I responded to that in a universal perspective that it is a taboo for a reason.
Now unfortunately some individuals have to go through difficult circumstances eg domestic violence and other serious life threatening issues and seek divorce ...** they are exceptions as i said before ... **
However there are several cases where difference of opinion or lack of compromise leads a situation to get worse and ends up in divorce ... in those cases i strongly believe that divorce can be avoided based on the fact that if a couple knows the strong words Allah has used for divorce , they will be pushed or encouraged to sort out their differences within the marriage framework . Fayax quoted an incident , which gives perfect example of what i am meaning to say.
Who am I to judge the reasons? I am part of this society , this culture , we all have responsiblity towards adopting positive actions and encouraging others to do the same and at the same time shunning negative traits in the cutlrue and society... when i was helping a cousin sister look for proposals , a few did come up who were divorced and i found it very hard to see through them ... I , as an individual am affected by what becomes a norm in our culture and society. hence I have the right to understand and establish various views on divorce.
I will be naive to think that every divorcee is innocent and just because they went through a difficult time , i should show them compassion. not everyone is innocent.
I hope this clarifies my perspective ...