What do you mean by "lost it" CB? not everyone that gets a divorced has "lost it".
Most of us here know that divorce is disliked by Allah (SWT) and is discouraged unless there are extreme circumstances for doing so. However, lets keep in mind it is not haram and it is a RIGHT given to us by Allah SWT as well. A right that should be used as a last resort of course. Often times that's whats best for person and their family. So how is divorce an action against Allah's word when it is allowed?
For some, there is no other way out and staying in a marriage that is doomed can be unhealthy for everyone involved especially after they have exhausted all options.
Allah SWT see's and knows all..and only He knows whats in our hearts and minds. It's best not to judge and assume the worst about a person just because they are divorced until we know both sides of the story.
Now getting back to the topic...
Unfortunately in our culture it is difficult for a woman to get remarried...even more so if she has kids. For men it is still very much possible. However, now that times are changing and finding the right person is getting more difficult, people are willing to keep more of an open mind and look beyond the surface. They are willing to accept a person that is divorced and/or divorced with kids if everything else is perfect.
The way i see it....accepting another persons child(ren) with open arms and treating them as your own and giving another human being a second chance in life has it's own rewards.
I agree.