Re: Chances of getting married again
AE and RV ,
Yes, I do carry a hard stance on divorced individuals ... mainly because these days divorce is seen an easy escape route .. we dont want another society like the west , where they are so used to the concept of fall in love, get married, few years later get divorced and then carry the cycle all over again.
Alot happens in a marriage , even in cases where both are madly in love there is a very very high level of patience, understanding and constant effort needed to save and secure a relationship.
and unfortunately many individual today do not put good enough efforts into saving the relationship.
Allah has allowed us divorce as a last option ... but it is still considered one of the most hated in Allah's sight.... it is so for a reason ... The fact that we humans should encourage each other to positively accept our spouses and try to turn around the situation as much as possible to avoid divorce , be it by forgiving the other , kill our ego , changing our attitude etc
I agree , sometimes it just doesnt work out and one is left with no choice but to seek divorce .. that we leave it for Allah mian to decide whether the individual had tried good enough to keep their relationship. In todays day and age , notice if a woman sheds two tears and tells her story there will be many that will tell her to seek divorce and hardly few that will advise her to continue trying to make the situation better... such advisors follow the satan's footsteps .
I am very much against divorces ... unless its for a genuine reason.