Chance of happiness 2nd time around?...

[poppies]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?..

@webmister

this thread is so painful for the eyes, why don’t people write in normal colors?

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Webmister… thank u for ur contribution .. alternatively u didnt have to post and certainly read the thread …‘some’ people obviously use colour and use it to the max… and black font isnt a colour and its certainly not “normal”…**

.. jeez cant believe I said that …

[diwana]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?...

@CM

Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to overcome it.

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Absolutely Excellent!

You separated people from being inactive from active.

Wah!

[diwana]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?..

@poppies

Thanks blessed hun…ur rite .. maybe its an idea to have the girl raise this issue with the guy …as u say theyre both adults and they both need to make sure that its both what they want … thanks hun:k:

Thanks Diwana… the guy is wanting to pursue this but its the girl that isnt fully sure…nothing has been said but my friend shares her fears/ concerns which is what I shared with u all…

It is expected for third parties for her to be fearful or concerned, but what is her real reason to be fearful or concerned. That was not clear.

[poppies]

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It is expected for third parties for her to be fearful or concerned, but what is her real reason to be fearful or concerned. That was not clear.

** Diwana hun..... her "worries" are that she isnt "physically/sexually" attracted to this guy... they get on well mentally but shes wanting to feel that" click"... hence her concerns- and 2nd time around shes worried and is asking her self can she "be" with a guy that can potentially make her happy in all other ways but can she reciprocate feelings when shes not "turned on" by him in that respect? Can you see ?

There is no third party issue!
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[system]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?...

** Diwana hun..... her "worries" are that she isnt "physically/sexually" attracted to this guy... they get on well mentally but shes wanting to feel that" click"... hence her concerns- and 2nd time around shes worried and is asking her self can she "be" with a guy that can potentially make her happy in all other ways but can she reciprocate feelings when shes not "turned on" by him in that respect? Can you see ?

There is no third party issue! **

Physical attraction is important to many people but does it matter to that girl ;) ? The girl should take her time by not rushing, she should also check out her other options too.... There are billions of men around the world so if this guy is not the "perfect package" then there is someone else Allah made for her... Within time, she might be able to realize what she wants and what she does not want.

[diwana]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?...

** Diwana hun..... her "worries" are that she isnt "physically/sexually" attracted to this guy... they get on well mentally but shes wanting to feel that" click"... hence her concerns- and 2nd time around shes worried and is asking her self can she "be" with a guy that can potentially make her happy in all other ways but can she reciprocate feelings when shes not "turned on" by him in that respect? Can you see ?**

There is no third party issue!

If she is in to looks and the guy cannot offer that, then the guy should leave her alone. Same advise for women if men are in to looks.

she can turn the lights off and listen to him talking. ;)

One can get plastic surgery.
Women do that all the time. He can go to plastic surgeon and say make me 'this' or 'that'. :D

[poppies]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?..

@$ehar

Physical attraction is important to many people but does it matter to that girl ? The girl should take her time by not rushing, she should also check out her other options too… There are billions of men around the world so if this guy is not the “perfect package” then there is someone else Allah made for her… Within time, she might be able to realize what she wants and what she does not want.

** Ta hun…so how do u define the “perfect package”???…Everyone’s perception is different and needs are different! I think this boils down to that missing “je ne se quois” and that physical click …at the end of the day this is serious- theyre trying to ascertain
whether a life time commitment is mutual to both of them- as I say , my friend is simply telling me that all the ticks are present apart from when she is with him / sees him that “umpf” is nt present…I know its tricky but I guess shes going to have to work it out! At their ages its all so different I guess;)**

@diwana

If she is in to looks and the guy cannot offer that, then the guy should leave her alone. Same advise for women if men are in to looks.

she can turn the lights off and listen to him talking.

One can get plastic surgery.
Women do that all the time. He can go to plastic surgeon and say make me ‘this’ or ‘that’.

**Diwana , whilst I appreciate your comments , I must say that these guys arnt young - and its neither a “short term” thing- the fact is that theyve met , they get on and are trying to work out whether theyre going to take the opportunity to make one another happy-if either were repulsed by one another then this thread wud never have come into existence!..and at the age that they are , people actually “grow up” by then which means people see beyond what they cud have been described as “shallow and " superficial” qualities……

Cheers **