Chance of happiness 2nd time around?...

[diwana]

Re: Chance of happiness 2nd time around?..

@poppies

Hi all:wave:

It appears even I, made it to L & R:rolleyes:… Ok … wud like to ask all ye faithful for sum advice/ suggestions/ viewpoints, especially from the distinguished amongst u:salute:… Scenario is:

A divorced girl in her early 40’s… divorced with no children meets an “eligible” guy … he’s of similar age , divorced and has a child from his 1st marriage, is successful and a nice guy…

Issue:

**The girl who meets this guy thinks hes lovely BUT…isnt attracted to the guy in a physical/sexual sense…at her age , shes over the “Physical looks” side of stuff and certainly the guy is as well … what they both seek is happiness and compatibility again … both admit theyre scared … and approach their “new found” friendship with caution… enjoying one another’s company…BUT.****… the guy is very much interested in pursuing this through - the girl keeps trying to think beyond what she did have physically with her ex and seeing past that to what she potentially could have ( which is what she wanted in the 1st place!!) which is - the love of a good man, a relationship based on compatibility and respect …
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So… what do the wise amongst you think:hmmm:… should this girl “pursue” this relationship ?..realistically could this actually work?.. what she and he seek are essentially the same but can there be a relationship of man and wife without mutual intimacy/ connection?.. is this girl being totally ungrateful to Allah swt’s blessings and mercy?..**

All “sound” advice is welcomed … thanks in advance:k:

It is not clear if he is nice guy and interested in her then what is holding her?

Fear? Insecurity? or something else?

Yes these kind of relation can work. Depends on people involved how they act.