My hubby can be a confrontational person at the best of times, i’ve known of this trait for all the years we were friends. In the past i’ve talked to him about this concern and even now sometimes still do. But i can’t seem to get this aggressive style of his when he approaches people who may have said and done wrong.
In some cases, whilst we’ve been out, something as simple as the person ahead of us not leaving the door open knowing well we’re right behind them can cause him to ‘challenge’ the person and speak his mind.
In such situations i’ve sometimes had to apologise to the person and hush my hubby along.
He is a loving husband and means the world to me; i just can’t seem to get this awful trait out of him, i just need some sincere advice from you people as to how i can best tackle this from a different angle.
As long as it does not turn into a shouting match or a brawl every time this happen then all is fine. This world needs more people like him as there are many , many , many , many mean people in this world and those mean people need to know that they are mean and that they need to mend their ways. someone has to do this dirty job. No.
If all of us think that let a bully be a bully and ignore them then this world will be soon full of them.
If he is a nice guy , and he does not do all that he has objection against then he should be admired and adored.
Well Rosemarina ... one thing u can do is let him kno how it feels and how embarrassed u feel by this ... i think that should curb his attitude a little ... if that doesn't work then make him feel wat hes doing ... so next time he leaves a wet towel on the floor or something taht ticks u then confront him and tell him that ok yeah thats how other ppl feel too ... and this way he'll understand tha tu can't argue about every lil thing
i gotta agree with Mirch. Its not fair to just sit back and take whatever comes at you--i think too many of us let rude behavior go which makes things worse.
unless its causing specific problems between you two, I wouldnt worry about it.
My hubby can be a confrontational person at the best of times, i've known of this trait for all the years we were friends. In the past i've talked to him about this concern and even now sometimes still do. But i can't seem to get this aggressive style of his when he approaches people who may have said and done wrong.
In some cases, whilst we've been out, something as simple as the person ahead of us not leaving the door open knowing well we're right behind them can cause him to 'challenge' the person and speak his mind.
In such situations i've sometimes had to apologise to the person and hush my hubby along.
He is a loving husband and means the world to me; i just can't seem to get this awful trait out of him, i just need some sincere advice from you people as to how i can best tackle this from a different angle.
Sincerely M.
There is a difference between speaking your mind and being aggressive. The latter is nothing to be glorified or proud of.
i gotta agree with Mirch. Its not fair to just sit back and take whatever comes at you--one should be confrontational.
unless its causing specific problems between you two, I wouldnt worry about it.
As mehnaz said, there is a huge difference b/w speaking your mind aggressively and speaking your mind politely. You can call your father "meri maaa ka shoher" or "mairee behen ka baaap" which is as right as father but less effective i am afraid.
Right thing told/done in wrong way does not remain that right, you have to make him realize this.
If what he is speaking out about is actually valid...then let him. Stay quiet and dont apologize unless he is being unreasonable. Also, if this attitude is not directed at you...its all good.
Often times, outspoken people like your husband put others who direly need it - into check.
If what he is speaking out about is actually valid...then let him. Stay quiet and dont apologize unless he is being unreasonable. Also, if this attitude is not directed at you...its all good.
Often times, outspoken people like your husband put others who direly need it - into check.
I would have never have had Bob down as the confrontational type! He seems far too timid.
If someone needs to be told, then they need to be told. However, if the situation is something that really isnt worth the hassle, as in nothing will be gained from it, then I wouldn't really bother.
ohhh…all right then…I hope you’ve taken everyones advice into consideration !