Caught my Husband Watching Porn For the Past 3 Years

[Reha]

Re: Caught my Husband Watching Porn For the Past 3 Years

@gudiaali

Islamically u say it is not correct to watch porn, then is it correct islamically to get divorce from your otherwise good husband just because he watches porn??

may be m wrong but i feel that u have it at the back of ur mind that u dont want to live ur life with him and get a divorce and u r just looking for some kind of reassurance that it you are justified in doing so.
may be its not just that he watches porn or stare at other women that u are looking for a separation wih him. may be,just may be deep down you just dont love him enuff to stay for a lifetime with him. may be u urself are looking to experience a life with someone else.
watching porn is normal for a lot of guys/men even the married ones. Many wives just get along well with this fact as they feel it isn’t any harm to them. he must be lying to you about it because he knows that you would create an issue out of it whereas in his eyes it doesn’t mean a thing so perhaps to avoid the fights with you he lies about it.
i don’t know at least i think he is not cheating on you or anything and not really going out having some physical relationship with any other women, he is just watching what most of the men watch whether they admit it or not so why create a big issue out of it and take this to the extreme level of divorce?

I think this post is really unfair. So instead of acknowleding someone’s mistake…you’re trying to blame her? Its all her fault?

Maybe you’ve seen this happen a lot but many people have not. Watching porn IS wrong. VERY VERY wrong. Please don’t blame it on hormones and say its all good…he’s a guy…he will watch porn. That means - since I am a girl - when I am on my period I should be allowed to throw things at people…I am a woman…all those raging hormones right?

There is a certain way to coduct yourself among society, friends, relationships and even with your spouse. A man who thinks its okay to stare at other women while his wife is right there is either badtameez or stupid. You’ve got to be either one to do something so foolish. Common sense dictates to at least wait until she cannot catch you. If he isn’t even worried about being caught, then we have an issue of respect. He doesn’t care if she sees him gawking.

He needs therapy and you two need serious counseling.