Caught between wife and parents

[LucyMay]

Re: Caught between wife and parents

@thedoer

I think there is more to this issue than he tells you. I can’t really understand why she would have a problem with her in laws if they never did or say anything wrong to her. Maybe he should sit down with her and ask her in a kind way. Maybe they did do something she haven’t told her husband

I actually suggested this to C, and here are some of the issues she has… some of them are frankly bizarre.

1. MIL asked her about having kids 2 years after they were married (i.e. 3 yrs ago).
2. Wife likes a certain type of mithai and C asked his parents to send them some with a friend who was traveling to the US. MIL did not send her fresh mithai - she bought the mithai the day before the friend left, rather than on the day itself.
3. MIL cooked C’s favorite dish when they visited the US (wife thinks of this as an invasion into her kitchen).
4. MIL does not talk to her much on Skype chats.
5. FIL bought a new watch, but showed it to everyone in the family except her.

Honestly I think the problem is the bad atmosphere she grew up in. Apparently her dadi was a tyrant and she treated her bahu (i.e. wife’s mom) very badly. C’s wife is having a hard time separating that anger from her feelings towards her own in laws.