Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
Underestimating women? I dont think so really. Rather, its the inability to accept another point of view while being so emotionally (and physically) involved in a situation....ie., if a wife and MIL are living together and have differing points of view, its very difficult to separate yourself from the situation without a neutral 3rd party who can intervene and keep things on a more even keel.
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
no its not, its because the individual is unsure as to what their specific role is and how to adapt to their role as they are too busy concentrating on what everybody else is doing.
i make perfect sense in my head, who knows if my theory pans out. :o
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
F: Live far away from each other and when and if they visit just try to hang on, its only a few days.
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
Majestic - perfect :) just how I do it, except the visits from Pakistani are a month or two and the visits from the other states are a week or two. But that is better than the daily thing :)
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You can always put up with people for a short term, I have. I understand family can be a pain, its just people should learn on to deal with every problem. I have, and I cant stand ANYONE.
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
I think the more we barha charha these stereotypes the more women and men go into marriage thinking they are inevitable. They aren't. All parties should be mature and grow with the changes and challenges that marriage brings. When a conflict arises, some tact and sensitivity toward the new members of your family and WHY they are having a problem is more important than the outcome of the issue. People always fight for a reason and the worst mother in law and daughter in law fights I have seen are due to insecurity and fear on both sides. I mean they were fighting over some pateela but do we really friggin care whether
a) he should stand aside and let them decide who gets the pateela
b) he arbitrates and gives the pateela to his mom
c) he gives the pateela to his wife
d) he cooks the food himself.
thats stupid.
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
Ha! Desis have this thing that living apart from your parents after you get married is practically “haram” !
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True…but c’mon, how hard is it to spot the difference between a shark and a sunfish? It’s the jellyfish you have to worry about…they look beautiful…AND they sting hard.
Haven’t made plans for the weekend yet…I’ll call you.
Re: Catfights among SIL, MIL, mother, sister
the SIL/MIL situations i've witnessed involved at least one party mature enough to understand where the other was coming from and took the high road in an effort to avoid the confrontations.. that seem to work.
But, when u throw a bunch of weirdos in the mix, you get weird situations.
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lol well I’m not desi!