I think she should talk to him directly about it..lay out her goals very clearly and be clear as to what she is expecting…but she should do this face-to-face..so she can see how his facial expression remains throughout the conversation.
These guys nowadays are so irrational at times..I mean when he found about your friend..he was well aware that she was studying medicine…and a life as a doctor it doesn’t take a genious to discover that it’s a demanding job, hence to ask for a domesticated traditional doormat to be at your service 24-7 is NOT possible…ofcourse there are some professions (including doctors) who can balance a professional and domestic life easily…but your friend’s husband seems the time that would want her to be at home at all times…waiting for her with a pot of currie cooking in the kitchen…
With specilization at least it’s flexible…but if he is not willing to compromise and adjust to her lifestyles..she needs to make that choice..give up her career and ambitions or stick with this dude who doens’t seem understanding…
Its not too late…better now than when she gets married and there’s children int he picture…