How do you make yourself care less, especially about people who don’t care about you? It’s easier said than done. Is there some underlying issue with people who care wayyyy too much about everything?
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Lol. Even the most self-assured or even cocky individual will run circles around the person that doesn't care about them or gives the impression that they don't care. Human nature.
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As long as you're not playing a game......you can train yourself by focusing on other things.
It's a difficult process to accept that someone who is/was important to you or in your life in some way, doesn't feel the same way about you.
It will take time. Be patient.
When you find your thoughts questioning that person's actions towards you, distract yourself with something else. Direct your mind and your body to another focus.
Reduce your exposure to that person.
As time passes you will find the distance growing. Eventually you will hurt less and less.
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I reckon the best way to not care is to remember the fact that 'life is too short for this crap'. This worked for me. I was overly sensitive as a teen and well it always brought awkward encounters :( but I learnt that not giving a crap works ! I feel happier,more self assured and above all comfortable in my own skin.
So just keep regurgitating the fact that life is way too short, you dont want to have to look back and see yourself wasting your precious time caring about petty opinions :)
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This is something I'm working on right now. It helps to distract yourself with other things, and not let yourself think too deeply of that person or the issues. Involve yourself with the people who do care about you, and in time, there will be a balance in the relationships you have with others. There's no underlying issue, it's rather the way we're bought up, to pay attention to all the little comings and goings of life. The key is to find balance, and to surround yourself with those who make you feel genuine contentment, and immerse yourself in activities that give you joy. Praying and reading the Quran also helps.
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The thing is that we don't realize that the other person can pick up on vibes about us that we not be even be aware that we are sending. For example, the other person can pick up that we're needy, and that we have made our entire life revolve around them...while we don't realize that that's the image we're projecting and instead we might think that we're being very loving and caring and that the other person should reciprocate equal attention/affection. But we don't realize the mistake we were making until the person becomes distant and possibly even annoyed by us. It's better to have varied interests outside of that relationship. And, yes, I agree that ibadat helps anchor a person. When you bow down 5 times a day, you remember (hopefully) that Allah takes precedence over all worldly and flawed relationships.
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I am actually in a similar position as you and in my case its a friend who I have zero contact or interaction with. Deep inside I know she doesn't care about let alone even properly remember how good friends we are when I was the one who she wronged but despite all that I care way toooo much about her and the friendship
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if you have to "try" to care less, that means you are caring even more :)
its a natural trait but try to move over things.....kisi aur kam maain dil lagaoo
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Stop expecting. Just think you are all alone & nobody cares so why bother & sulk & waste your energy. Repeat this on constant loop in your mind or when you see someone is not caring about you, you will be fine.