Caring for Elderly Parents

[Sehrysh]

Re: Caring for Elderly Parents

@Peony

Thank you for your kind words. I have a hard time understanding the urdu. By the Grace of God, although I come down with a terrible illness, my parents are here to take care of me. Cancer is no joke but they relish in how I suffer and say that hopefully this will make you infertile.

I will admit that before reading this post, your OP made me very unsympathetic to your plight, I couldn’t understand your lack of compassion. But the experience you’ve related changes how many people will perceive your circumstances.

Prayers that Allah (swt) grants you improved health.

As far as the in-laws are concerned - figure out all of the possibilities for care (at home - yours versus separate, or with your BIL/SILs), the expenses involved (who will be responsible - sharing of expenses or not and where you can save, etc.), the people who need to be involved and who will be responsible.

Don’t operate from the assumption that it will be your sole responsibility, this puts you in a disadvantaged position. Assume and propose options that have all of the siblings financially, physically and emotionally responsible.