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**flowers, dinner, vacation, jewelry?*
And these 4 are the only things that come to mind to please a woman?
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lol. just goes to show how much they know...
Re: career women
Not at all.... I can consider living apart but not leave my job if I "loved" it.... but giving it a second thought.... I'd say that depends how much I love the job and my "husband". The stronger side would make me act.
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Question for the ladies here – would you quit a job you love if your husband's career demands relocation?
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In a situation that requires compromise and mutual respect many women say without batting an eye that they would have to weigh the value of their husband or their job. Welcome to the west.
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*Originally posted by Sir Galahad: *
In a situation that requires compromise and mutual respect many women say without batting an eye that they would have to weigh the value of their husband or their job. Welcome to the west.
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Then again you have plenty of women here who would be willing to relocate without a fuss. Welcome to the west.
PCG, please don't mock me. I asked a legitimate question sincerely, within all bounds of decency.
Is the correct answer: help her with job search?
WC, what u said about making it up to the wife (flowers, dinner, vacation, jewelry) is quite true ive seen..
i know many of us single here.. but i have married friends whose hubbies do go away for work for a very long time, and i know all these things do make a difference :k: ofcourse, a lot more can be done too.. but these are still quite relevant
World Citizen - that is a good start.
There's also emotional support. For example, after you move and prior to moving, you dont want to be rubbing in your excitement of your new job in her face. Not to say that you can't be excited, but be considerate that she might feel jealous or bitter every time you start talking about how great you feel.
And under no circumstances ever say anything like "Well, look at the bright side - you get to spend more time with the kids".
Yeah...that might not be a...great...idea...
Basically emotional support, cooperation - not just helping her look for a new job, but maybe giving her some encouragement to look into new ideas. Mmmm....for example, say your wife has some sort of hobby...like writing. Watching the phrasing of your sentence, you might want to suggest she look into writing books or articles or poems - for publishing. Or lets say she likes hockey...and you find there is a need for a children's team's hockey coach in the neighborhood you're moving into - suggest she try that out.
Try negate the negative as much as possible. Its called Damage Control.
^ hmm those are pretty good ideas :k:
personally from what ive seen and been told… wives do like to share the excitment.. i mean they do want to know that their hubby is happy bout the position and so on..
i think hubbies should get just as much acknowledgment.. i have a few young married friends here.. and most of their hubbies have been working in different countries/states.. and i know how much they hate it. And its the wives who have pushed them to take the raise or higher position.. in the end i find the hubbies are suffering more.. as they’re not spending any time with their kids and wives..
i think the hubbies deserve some, if not a lot, of credit for sacrificing. But then again, i am talking about those couples whose wives havent moved with the hubby… lekin thats cus the employer didnt provide any benefits… sucks really
of course the man deserves his share of excitement, and she ought to be really happy for him. after all its a marriage. but at the same time, the husband needs to be aware to be CAREFUL of not going overboard.
Like it would be horrible to be bringing your career to an end, or what at least at the time seems like an end or a hiatus, only to see that your husband doesn't care at all and all he can babble about is the new benefits package he'll be getting in Omaha.
if he pays me the money I get from my work den yeah y not
i dunno.. maybe ive not seen too many of those kinda hubbies here.. i know when my friends hubby had to go away, he was quite upset and didnt want to go.. and he was very supportive of his wife to keep studying
another friend of mine (a male) who was newly wed too, had the same issues… he hated going away.
there are actually quite a few good men out there :k: and i think they are quite supportive of their wives. Good on them…
It depends if I can also find the same job in the prospective city to which we'd be relocating. As much as I want to be selfless and say yeah I'd relocate, I know it wouldn't be easy if I'm not getting the same job especially if I've gone thru a rigorous academic curriculum to reach where I'm at and I love what I do.
b/w im really off topic... or going off on a tangent, so excuse the babble im writing
It really depends. If it's easy to get a job in the same field wherever you are moving, then the decision should be a lot easier to make. As it stands, many girls have to move from the get go as soon as they get married ... talking about scenarios where the girl is from one country/city and the guy is from another ... both within North America for example. If you are able to marry someone who originally is from the same area, then I guess it would be more difficult to make the adjustment ... but like someone said, both parties should be willing to compromise.
Thank you PCG. Sensitivity would be the key to save the vases flying.
I imagine a lit bit of flattery combined with damage control can be in good judgment.
Thank you everyone.
Let’s lock the thread on this note:
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Then again you have plenty of women here who would be willing to relocate without a fuss. Welcome to the west.
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