career women

As you requested a male response, here is one perspective. As the husband in this scenario is moving jobs it is a given that it would be a promotion, better chances of one or more pay etc. Very few people actually move states let along countries or continents for the same job and pay. There has to be some added larger bonus or benefit from the move, that off sets the liabilities of moving.

Now given that; I personally would expect my wife to move.

Inversing the situation, if my wife is working and gets offered a better job somewhere else and wants to move, it would have to be considered, whether I as the primary breadwinner will be able to find employment. How long will I be unemployed, and will her new job cover the losses and liabilities of yours truly being unemployed, losing a second and much larger income (this assumes of course I am the primary care giver) and covers the cost of moving as well? If her job covers all those costs and the ability to find me a new job is relatively simple, then yes I would move.

On a personal note, my life and my background makes me highly prone to moving countries and continents every couple of years. So my "wife" would have to come to terms with the fact that I travel for work and we will be moving countries often.

What if she's in the same field as you :-|

Re: career women

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Question for the ladies here – would you quit a job you love if your husband's career demands relocation?
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My mother has had to do this far too often for my dad.And its not exactly pleasant.

*What if she's in the same field as you *

that can help tremendously...and sometimes not.

depends on the field.

I am not a 'career woman' but a career male. If my wife is hesitant to move alongwith me then I'll give her two choices;

1- you get a job which brings in the same amount of money (or satisfaction) for BOTH of us

2- let's move to splitsville.

People generally don’t move for the sake of moving. If the move is for the good (as you can see ‘financial’ reasons from the majority of the replies above) then convincing is a lot easier or else you have a nagging princesses to deal with.

nagging princesses?

Yeah..that's what I call girls who are imported from Pakistan :-p

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Yeah..that's what I call girls who are imported from Pakistan :-p
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I see.And you're from the Arctic?

All the guys expect the wives to just get up and move to another country when he finds a "better" deal of a job, and you all think you wont have to do so if your wife gets transferred?:o

IS this only about money? I for one cant imagine myself moving into another place- where I dont know a single soul.

Hey, if my wife made more money than me and didn't mind me staying at home fulfilling my own hobbies, I would move to the North Pole for her.

I would and in the past I have done so too. A big part of marriage is about compromise after all.

Majority of the times it is about money...especially when we are talking desies here.
I don't expect you to be happy in Boonivile either...

p.s Have you seen Shrek? I am from the land Far far away...people call me Prince Charming.

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Majority of the times it is about money...especially when we are talking desies here.
I don't expect you to be happy in Boonivile either...

p.s Have you seen Shrek? I am from the land Far far away...people call me Prince Charming.
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Yeah Im sure money doesnt have a meaning for the goras.Father of generalizations.

No I have not, prince charming? Well people are very mistaken.

Shahreen--- I lost count of how many times my parents moved because of my dads work.Very very annoying.I refuse to do so.Its too hard to settle into a new place, then just move again -for me that is.

interesting answers, and eye -opening perspectives

money is important, but don't you sometimes feel like moving to break monotony, to start a new chapter, a fresh start. . .

in a cooperative situation, what can the man do to prove there has been no hierarchy added to the relationship? especially if there was none to begin with

flowers, dinner, vacation, jewelry?

professor fayz, what would Life 1 be without you? :)

DIAMONDS and BIG ONES AT THAT!!!!!!

Yes I would..even if it would mean giving up my career...I do believe the man is the head of the household and certain choices would have to be accepted.

I;d lovehim and I'm adaptable..I'd prolly like to move..and obviously he thinks it's a good idea so why not?

ive seen families wrecked due to stubborness and not compromising..

i think when ur in a marriage, u should talk things thru properly and do wat you think is best (for both not individually)

some couples have stayed apart (like hubby has gone away to work) while the wife raises her kids someplace else.. its pretty difficult i must say...

**in a cooperative situation, what can the man do to prove there has been no hierarchy added to the relationship? especially if there was none to begin with

flowers, dinner, vacation, jewelry?**

And these 4 are the only things that come to mind to please a woman?

^ apologies for the naivete

what else can he do?

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