Re: cant stand the spouse anymore
you guys should go out on a date, enjoy a romantic dinner, take a long walk and forget these petty things. So there was a fight.... some things were said. Who cares.... trust me, a couple of months later, you won't even remember what this stupid fight was about.
I read about this prime minister/president who used to write really nasty letters to his opponents and to people who had wronged him. Its just that he tore the letters after writing them and never posted. But writing the letter took out his anger and the deep down grudge.
Your grudge is actually a form of suppressed anger... you need to ket go of it or take it out on something safe. Go break some glasses/dishes (not in front of him though). Its a known therapy for relaxing.