Re: Can your in-laws actually be like your real parents?
Living with your in laws is a real eye opener - be it straight after your marriage or years after!
My MIL recently has come to live with us - initially for 6 months but will then get a permanent Visa (insha allah).
I work Full Time and she is staying with us 100% even though she has a daughter and son in the same city here. Now I don't mind that, but whilst me and hubby are out at work, she goes over to SIL's place, where she helps out and cooks for her etc - even though SIL lives with her in laws!!!
YET - I have to come home and straight into the kitchen after a quick shower and change! She does come into the kitchen and help, but it's a real 90/10 split!
At the weekend she tells her daughter to "aram kar" yet quite happily watches me slave away on the house from 7am!
What I'm trying to get at, is that parents expect different things for their daughters and daughters in law - and whilst there probably are hundreds of good in laws, there are twice as many who think that the daughter in law should be this that and the other. BUT how many of them are actually just living up to the stereotype?
Sorry can't help much more, just trying to say that it's nothing you have done or can do - it's just one of those things..............
May Allah continue to give you sabr, and the hidayat to continue respecting them.