Re: Can you survive Marriage?
No one said that OP is being selfish or ungrateful. No one said that she should’ve gone ahead with any of the guys she mentioned she rejected. She needs to find someone who she feels compatible with…which is something that clearly has not happened so far.
Oh and btw…ANYONE who believes that they will NEVER get divorced is a fool. No one can predict the future. Yes I married a man who’s nice, successful, comes from a good family, who I feel compatible with blah blah blah. But I would be an idiot if I believe that there is 0 chance of us getting divorced. I have no way to guarantee that my husband is not going to cheat on me someday or turn out to be rapist or murderer or whatever. So far he hasn’t turned out to be gay but that doesn’t mean that 20 years from now, one day that won’t happen. Maybe women you know can somehow predict the future but I can’t. Which is exactly why I CHOOSE to stay financially independent so if for whatever reason if I feel divorce is the best option for me in the future, I can get it done without worrying where I’ll get $$ to survive. I am not giving OP any advice that I wouldn’t follow myself.
Look around at threads on Life1 or even the blogs. All the people that post about their marital issues…I’m pretty sure none of them thought these things would happen when they chose their partner. Almost everyone gets married thinking that they will experience a happy marriage. They fool themselves into thinking that life will be just fine and don’t prepare themselves for the worse case scenario. OP is afraid that her marriage might go sour and I’m telling her that yes, there is a possibility that might happen. No matter how nice, successful, good background etc. etc. etc. the guys has…NO ONE can guarantee OP that she will have a happy marriage.