can you live in such a situation?

[jaanaan]

Re: can you live in such a situation?

@kakee

No, it can’t survive and she’s in an abusive relationship..

I would suggest for your wife to reason with her if you don’t mind intruding in your friends business.

Almost everyone has reasoned with her. I had reasoned with her before they got engaged. She did not listen to me. at that time I had been thinking that the guy was not serious about marrying her and was using her as a “time pass”. and what he was telling her was what the usual guy BS was, like i have to get my sisters married first etc. but at the end of the day he sent in his parents.
as far as reasonable voices are concerned, every single person who is connected to her in some way and wanted to wish her well has tried to dissuade her. this included her own sister. but she did not listen to her either.

here is one more thing. this girl is from a very rich family. the guy is not from any affluent background.
the girl’s sister recently got engaged in a decent rich family. they took this guy in the engagement ceremony. there he got jealous of their wealth.

[Quote= ShahreyarKhan]
brother, seems like you have done in-depth analysis of her relationship

tell me again, why are you taking somebody else’s issue too seriously?

interference can get you into trouble and from the looks if it, you are going that way
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sheharyar khan I have not really done any interference. but the thing is that this girl is one of my wife’s good friends. and we are both really worried about her. and we are afraid that she will become isolated from everyone. we are concerned because we will either have to cut ties with both or keep talking to both. and frankly i dont want to be in touch with that person.

i wish she could walk out of this abusive relationship before kids are involved in it… although it will not be an easy job for her…, the guy seems to be arrogant,he will not change rather his behaviour can be more abbusive in future i.e he might start physically abbusing her,bcuz guy knows that she’s somehow use to of these situations before marriage so she can be ok with the given situation… he has problems with her even on small issues…i dont know why is he allowing her to work if he’s so narrow minded?for the sake of money..??

one and only, i have the same apprehensions too. that was my exact analysis too.
why is he letting her work? well at first he had asked her to stop working. but i guess then he thought that it would be wiser to get the extra income coming in the future. they work in similar sector but she earns more than him. i think that will also be an issue in the future. he will continue to let her work because i dont think they can survive on one income of his. he earns around 20K rupees a month, too less for even one person to survive.