Can you ever recover from being cheated on or having rishta breakdown?

[pcormac2013]

Re: Can you ever recover from being cheated on or having rishta breakdown?

@moonlight786

I read the entire thing. Look, you are a nice person. you shouldn’t be regretting something which wasn’t meant to be. It isn’t ur loss at the end of the day…if u guys were still together n married, wud u be happy to learn it was a compromise on ur wife’s behalf…she still dreams to partner up with her ex cuz he was the only guy she loved?
you are letting this situation rule over you and i can understand that as both of u were childhood friends..Shared up’s & down’s she might have been their for you for your tough times as well but at the end she opted for more materialistic stuff - Lifestyle ! Perhaps, She din treasure what she lost, so why are you sulking…get over it.
Their are plenty of female’s out there who can look beyond the status and more of the character of a person.
Two years is a long time… and you have wasted them thinking about the same female? Certain people give up goals/ambitions just to get into something which they think they can change…like this girl of yours. She is married, happy or not isn’t your concern anymore cuz she gave up/moved up and isn’t even keen on keeping in touch with you

I suggest..clear off your mind, cut out the if’s & but’s as they lead you nowhere & keep your fingers-crossed. You may stumble upon someone who is much more better, kindhearted & generous like yourself.

Thanks for kind words. What you say is true.I guess I’m looking for answers
Why would she say she loves me if it wasn’t true? We could have still bren friends. Why would she seek physical affection and comfort from me to leave me for someone else ? I could have saved all that for my wife but we were engaged and I thought we would marry. I didn’t think I was time pass for her? Why use me emotionally and physically? It hurts for guys as well. Why invite me to help her parents cook for dawat when in the end all that would matter for them is my wealth and job? Even my parents agree with her decision because I’m not doctor or engineer like him.

I shouldn’t think of ifs and buts unless they help me for next time. I just pray that inshallah I will get a good rishta because now I dont believe in love marriage now.