In life on different levels, something negative happens. But in some cases, eventually something positive comes out of it. Does that mean one should be happy with that negative cause, no matter how awful it was?
Suppose it caused a lot of grieve and problems, does the positive outcome justify the grieve and problems?
To me its 2 different things. One is the negative things and the other is the positive outcome...
I would be happy with the positive things happening to me or my surroundings while I would thing about the negative things and try to extract the learnings from this. One shouldnt deny that pain one goes through. However its important not to let is take over your mind and think about why certain things happen and why it happened to you..was there something you could have done differently?if yes, then think about what you could do different and if no then think about what made hindered you from doing so.
In any case I belive that one should - as a Muslim - believe that whatever happens in our lives, happens due to a reason. sometimes we go through pain so others can learn from it and sometimes Allah gives us endless blessings so that we can thanks Him and others around us can reflect on it too! :)
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That's true.
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Notorious we learn from our mistakes, they define who we are today, mistakes should not be seen in a negative light, they are the very stepping stones to our future success :).
(But then again if you don't learn the lessons from your past then your are doomed to repeat them, though this is another debate altogether).
ofcourse!
Recent example:
I booked my driving test in october last year, had to wait for 2 months to get a driving test appointment. I took driving lessons, prepared for it so well, i was so excited! The test, however, ended up being cancelled coz one of my brake lights was fused! Don't ask why I didn't check it beforehand, I though i was so prepared! Was really disappointed!
Booked the test again, got an appointment a month later and passed.
Not a smooth journey but a positive outcome so who cares about the bumps?
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Some things aren't necessarily bad, they are just different. When they occur out of no where we preceive the situation in negativity when in fact it may be what is best for us.
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depends on what this bad is.
its not that you are always happy with it
accepted the bad, content with overall situation which includes the bad and the good is more like it.
In life on different levels, something negative happens. But in some cases, eventually something positive comes out of it. Does that mean one should be happy with that negative cause, no matter how awful it was?
Suppose it caused a lot of grieve and problems, does the positive outcome justify the grieve and problems?
Why treat it as black or white? It depends upon how bad the situation is.
A few days ago, Reha (moderator) created a thread about how this very religious woman who gives Islamic lectures at the masjid......said something strange that had a lot of tongues wagging. This khatoon gave an example of how she knew a lady who was being abused by her husband....in front of her own children. But she couldn't leave him because the stigma of divorce and also because she couldn't financially support herself on her own. So, she basically stuck it out in the marriage.......for the sake of her children. The husband died.....and the children grew up to be successful professionals. And the lady giving the lecture used this end result (successful children) as the woman's REWARD for being patient. But does having smart/successful children mean that everything worked out? What if those kids...deep down....are emotionally scarred and end up repeating the negative behaviors of their parents (abusing....and tolerating abuse) in relationships? You can't use financial/academic success as the yardstick to measure emotional security.
Every situation varies. You have to weight the pros and cons....the outcomes....to decide if it's worth it. For example, putting in long hours at school/work to get the job of your dreams or a promotion........may be worth the sacrifice. Unless we know about your situation....it's hard to say.
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Yes you can...abt a year i got engaged, and got nikahed....got a BIG huge rock on my finger, and showed it off everyone and blah blah blah...6 months later found out his name rhymed with Tiger Woods and had to show my face at divorce court...Was depressed for a week, and then I thought "hey, maybe this is punishment for my sins...better now the the hereafter..." and I also thought oftne the words in the Quran "Faina Maal us riusra" - With every bad, there's good...And alhumdllilah, it wasn't that big of a deal...People are nice, and I got closer to people I didn't know well when they called to offer their sympathies and share their own story...it was a good feeling! :)
Oh and I learned a lesson abt gloating. :)
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It all depends on the person. Pessimist or optimist.
It also depends on specific situation.
A woman gives birth to a child. Should she regret the pain she suffered?
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After leaving uni I was questioning myself and quite down about why I did not pursue what everyone else in my field was. Then came every lalu panju's observations and remarks and it made me question myself. I stuck with what I believed was right for me and now alhamdulilah even though I had to wait to get where I am today, I am so thankful and happy alhamdulilah that the end justified the means.