after marriage?
we all know men never change…does this apply to women too? or women change??
discuss please..
Re: can wife/woman change her bad behaviour......
R U talking about MASHRAQI WOMEN,hehe: they have no option
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First of all, it shoud be asked what kind of bad behaviour a woman might have which needs to be changed after marriage? In the other thread, we are talking about the abusive behaviour of man which is affecting his wife.
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You mean like abusive behaviour? Like the kind of behaviour the husband discussed in the other thread is exhibiting? It's unlikely for her to change. People like that tend to have certain psychological issues (e.g personality disorders) and without counselling or treatment they will probably never change on their own.
Even if they received treatment, I think it'd be risk maintaining a relationship with them. There's a high incidence of psychopathy among abusers, and psychopaths can't change.
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Anyone and everyone has it in them to change but only if they really want to work at it and ofcourse good support of people around them does matter alot.
Edit: Is this even a serious thread?!
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Yes, they do. They turn from sharmeeli dulhanain into husband-beaters. (too soon?)
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im pretty sure they can, it depends on the woman and her upbringing though and whether her bad habits/behavior are made apparent to her and she realizes that she needs to improve. if she's constantly criticized, the self esteem goes down and she would kind of bend over backwards to make the marriage work b/c she'll constantly think it's her fault or b/c of her flaws that it's not working.
if it's a control issue or anger issue where she's verbally or physically abusive, a friend of mine that was a psychology major, told me one time that it's only .1% of the abusive people that actually make a grand change in themselves but it takes a big event in their life to make the realization that they need to change and eventually change for good
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Just a general question........ about 'change'.... women can't (usually) do the physical abuse stuff.....but apart from that.....all other 'bad' habits are possible in both men n women......so thats what i am talking about.....
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I'm not sure if women can fully change their bad habits, however, their bad habits are more easily repressed by their husbands/ society.
So whats considered bad behavior for men is considered terrible behavior for women (almost taboo). So it's not that they change their behavior, rather, they don't get the same flexibility as men to express their bad behavior!!?!
Re: can wife/woman change her bad behaviour…
They don’t get time for ‘bad’ behavior.. chulla, bartan, kapray.. you know 
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Yes she can, if nobody (mom, siblings) encourages her bad habbits.
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Aw 
You know whats so shameless about this thread?
Its a spin off from a thread posted by a woman who is being abused by her husband.
Instead of taking her seriously, this thread was intended to make it all about man versus woman.
You make me so proud…
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Shameless? Seriously?
This thread is different than hers… taking her seriously has nothing to do with this thread…i don’t think this thread, in any way, reduces how seriously that thread has to be taken
she asked the question with her background story…i am just asking the same question without a story…this one is just to have opinion of the oppposite scenario…because questions of 'man not changing after marriage…is asked again n again…if an opposite question is asked its automatically shameless?
How about answering what is asked? instead of judging what the possible intention might or might not have been behind opening a thread?
I love it how you are such mind readers to know what was ‘intended’ behind a thread…
but how judgmental of you to call it shameless…
Re: can wife/woman change her bad behaviour......
well it is a valid question - some women tend to indulge in the whole "pseudo-PMS phenomenon" - sulking, stonewalling, going passive-aggressive, open or hidden tantrums, prissy princess syndrome etc. especially the daddys girls. i've wondered how these critters perform after a while of being married and living with someone who won't put up with or entertain such drama. do they change, or does the husband learn to stay out of the way when the full moon rises..
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Nature can never be change!
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:k:
yes thats kind of question i was asking… they have been pampered by their daddies all their life… . throwing tantrums to get things, spending money without knowing any limits stuff like that… obviously many here would just deny that such ‘bad habits’ exist
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TO change your bad habits you have to have the ability to judge YOURSELF impartially. Not many people have the ability or the courage to do that.
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Nomi, thori si sharam karo
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Not all women are like that...very few are.
Also, it's best not to marry a girl whose standard of living has been higher than what you can provide her after marriage...most girls will have a hard time adjusting. It's not a girl thing, that's how almost everyone is.
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TO change your bad habits you have to have the ability to judge YOURSELF impartially. Not many people have the ability or the courage to do that.
i think that's why if all us humans had a dedicated, devoted therapist tagging along with us where ever we go, we would be much better off. that person can tell us all the flaws we need to improve on in the most impartial way possible