Hey guys m rlly confused as after my delivery my mom can only stay wid me for ten days and my mil cant b around too 
so now im thinking if I should leave with my mom so that i and the baby are taken care of… anyway I have two questions the first is whether I would be able to take care of the baby and the house all by myself after my mom leaves ? And second how long aftr th delivery can I travel like take a ten hour long flight to Pakistan?
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I’m not sure about if you will be able to handle it all on your own because that is something that is different for each individual.
As for how long after giving birth you can travel, that should be answered by your baby’s pediatrician. Just be wary that it is better to travel after your baby gets most of his or her initial shots because airports and planes are a hub of viruses not to mention Pakistan. I’m sure some of the other mothers here can add their experiences.
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It’s really upto you. If this is your first child one way you can manage is by having lots of frozen food for like 3-4 weeks. Newborns sleep a lot so you can get time in between to do some tasks, or you can do them on the weekends with your hubby. I won’t advise travelling that soon with a newborn to Pakistan. It’s better if baby gets acclimatised to your area.
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you really cant decide it this early if you have a choice. anyway the answer to both your queries is yes. necessity is the mother of invention. if Allah puts you in a situation, He helps you in it too. people with such experience can give you potential advice regarding how it can be managed but i am sure there are people who have done it.and well enough too. I would second the advice given above regarding baby’s vaccination done. once you have healed up well aafter the delivery, your ready to go.
can u take care of a new born & house
I can take care of a newborn and my house..in fact I did it twice,.and the second time was newborn twins and a toddler 
Pregnancy/childbirth/being a new mom does not render you an invalid. Barring any MAJOR medical complication god forbid, you will not lose the use of your mind or body, nor do you need a battalion of house help. There are plenty of women who have managed without their mothers or mil’s, even after having csections.
Is it hard? In the beginning, yes…but it’s not impossible nor as daunting as you’re expecting. Why would you want to leave the comfort of your own home with a newborn, just because you fear you can’t manage alone? You can do anything you put your mind to…your house may be a little messier and you’ll be a little sleep deprived, but who cares?
If you want to go with your mom, then go. But if you can’t, know that you’re perfectly capable of managing on your own.
As far as the second part of your question, I wouldn’t even think about taking a newborn to Pakistan for at least 3-4 months, but that’s just my opinion. I’ve never been in that position nor had the need to go so others can probably guide you better.
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If you end up with a c section, you will need someone around for more than 10 days unless you don’t plan to cook or clean. Newborns sleep a lot so honestly you have more time to do things than when they are toddlers and need much more attention and supervision. If you have enough frozen food and aren’t OCD when it comes to piles of laundry or a messy house, you will be fine.
I took my son to Pakistan at 4 months.. Perfect age to go. He had his first set of immunization, he was not very active that he wanted to crawl or run around in 12 hours of flight to Pakistan and since I was mostly bfing with formula, I didn’t have to be afraid of anyone giving him something to eat or drink. I was able to leave him home with my mom or mil to go out for shopping etc for couple of hours so he really didn’t leave the house much unless necessary.
Good luck with everything.
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Its hard, yes. Every baby is different, some babies are up all night or want to be held a lot. Let some things go, you will have to do some housework but it doesn’t have to be perfect absolutely at all times. They are only little once, you will have the rest of your life In Sha Allah to keep a perfect house. please don’t listen to stories about how everyone is a super mom, because there will be stories like these. Even I can tell stories like these about myself when I was taking care of a 4 year old and a newborn baby in an absolutely new city with a paralyzed leg (due to complications of delivery and now I am fine, MA). Did I cook yes, but was everything perfect, no? i would tell you to relax and focus more on teh baby.
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Thank you so much for ur input ladies.. I guess ill try and stay back cuz anyway the country where I livr has a tropical weather and its going to be freezing cold in Pakistan at tht time.. so I dont know if exposing the baby to such extreme weather change wud be okay too.. m jus really worried m gonna mess smthng up wid th baby like drop it while bathing or smthng 
I keep having such crazy thoughts the reason I want to leave with my mom cuz I dun have any help at my home !
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Im no where near to being a super woman myself.. my cooking skills suck the only thing I cant stand is a messy house.. also iv spent my pregnancy away from mums home so probably the reason I wanna go bak home with mum and be taken care of. . Bt ur right I need to learn to manage and stop worrying abt the perfect house and food
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I gave birth 5 months ago via C-section, and my mom came to stay with me for 1 week, after that I was all on my own, and I also have two pre-schoolers as well (ages 4 and 3) mA! Has it been tough running the house all by myself and taking care of three kids? absolutely YES…but is it impossible???..absolutely NO! Remember your main priority is your baby, household stuff can wait. I have a maid who comes to clean every so often, so I don’t worry about cleaning at all, just a little tidy up that’s about it. Only thing I do is that I make sure we have food made, I like to cook meals for my family so I have been doing it since after the second week I had the baby, my husband helps out with the laundry/groceries and giving the older kids a bath each night which is a tremendous help to me considering how hard my days are, no one is asking you to be a super woman, do what you can, and take it from there, believe me If I can do it, you can surely do it too 
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Thanx for the encouragement babe.. I personally have seen my cousins being entirely on their own after their babies r born n even through the delivery. .so I believe I can do too.. bt I dunno guess ill just see when the baby arrives…
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There is also a difference between the first time you have a baby and the second onwards. With the first you are clueless and the adjustment is harder, bfeeding, recovery, sleep deprivation, with the second it’s easier to handle a new born and the house, it’s the toddler that’s the toughest!
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I was totally on my own for the birth of my 3 kids. It was only me and hubby and Allah’s help of course. I cooked n froze food before my EDD n alhamdulillah it was doable. It was hardest when I had my daughter born premature via c- section n I kept going from spending my nights at me natal care and days at home with 2 young kids. Recovery from c section was also a hard part in this case but I guess I was too worried for my daughter at that time, to even think about anything else. May Allah bless my husband who was always there with me and we managed it.