Can someone enlighten me?...

[nadii86]

Re: Can someone enlighten me?..

@Scherbatsky

If it takes two months to move on to the number exchange, you already know it’s not going anywhere. In future your priority should be more in- person, face-to-face communication sooner than later. Otherwise you will continue to be emotionally exploited by people who are unsure about you.

Secondly, the whole ‘I don’t give my number out to guys’ attitude needs to go. Guys don’t have cooties and the more comfortable you are in communicating with them and being in their company, the better it is for you not just for your marital prospects but life in general.

Also, this whole ‘he’ll think I’m easy if I give my number to him so easily’ is total BS. If you don’t even want to exchange phone numbers because you have trust issues then maybe online matchmaking isn’t the way to go.

People have a lot of choice online to pass time or be confused and even just to stay confused if that’s what they wish to do. There’s not much you can do except identify then quickly and move on.

2 months did seem like a long time but that was due to him. I was waiting for him to ask and he finally did…and then disappeared!
I don’t have a problem with giving males my number, however there are ALOT of males on there who are just looking for fun, probably half of them so that is why I am reluctant to give my number to anyone after speaking for a short space of time. I am looking for marriage purposes online, not to have a friend.

I feel comfortable with getting to know males…alot of males think I am easy to talk to and have a good sense of humor. That is not the problem…the problem is what i wrote in the original post. I just can not be bothered with this happening time and time again!