Re: Can someone enlighten me?..
If it takes two months to move on to the number exchange, you already know it’s not going anywhere. In future your priority should be more in- person, face-to-face communication sooner than later. Otherwise you will continue to be emotionally exploited by people who are unsure about you.
Secondly, the whole ‘I don’t give my number out to guys’ attitude needs to go. Guys don’t have cooties and the more comfortable you are in communicating with them and being in their company, the better it is for you not just for your marital prospects but life in general.
Also, this whole ‘he’ll think I’m easy if I give my number to him so easily’ is total BS. If you don’t even want to exchange phone numbers because you have trust issues then maybe online matchmaking isn’t the way to go.
People have a lot of choice online to pass time or be confused and even just to stay confused if that’s what they wish to do. There’s not much you can do except identify then quickly and move on.