- Men grow old, they don't grow good. :D
i disagree. If partner's give each other enough support and encouragement, then can grow good too :)
It is said that honesty is the best policy, but do you think ‘absolute honesty’ is actually the best policy when it comes to relationships? Do you believe in sharing everything - every thought, every secret desire, every feeling - with your partner?
Sometimes you need to keep thoughts to yourself.
I think you could end up hurting your partners feelings if you shared every thought that came to you head, every desire (to fill my whole house with expensive shoes ;) )
There shouldn't be any BIG secrets but I think there are some things that are better left unsaid.
Don't be so sure honey! j/k
Hamesha yehi log kehte ha when I told them stuff like "hubby ne kbi kisi or larki ki taraf nhi dekha, ya pir, hubby doesn't lie to me..."
It hurts me each time someone tells it... Or pir age se jawab hi mein kya de skti hoon. Of course I can't prove but this is what we call "ek doosre per yakeen karna"
Re: Can secrets hurt a relationship?
Teddy Bear: whenever we use words like "never" or "always", we basically invite others to challenge what we're saying. By saying your husband's never looked at another girl - one automatically thinks - how do you know!? So don't be hurt next time someone says this.
I don't believe for a sec that married men don't check out other women - it doesn't mean they love their wives any less - I guess it's human nature or MAN's nature.
To answer the question posed in this thread: no, I don't believe in sharing every secret, every desire and every thought with my partner. Everyone has their own secrets. In terms of previous relationships - husband/love of my life doesn't need to know about my grade 9 boyfriend.
- Men grow old, they don't grow good. :D
Thats why I made it a point to marry a good man to begin with!! :D
Re: Can secrets hurt a relationship?
Sure there may be secrets between us, but those that don't come in the way of our relationship. Every relationship requires some sort of emotional maturity as well as personal responsibility and while I do admit that I wish I know each and every detail about my spouse, it's not possible... I don't even know everything about my 2 year old!
So the thing is that secrets can hurt a relationship if they are many and of the wrong type. But in a steady and meaningful relationship, I think we should be able to handle a few unknowns.
Re: Can secrets hurt a relationship?
if its important it matters
if its lame ..whatever
Re: Can secrets hurt a relationship?
depends on the nature of secret, if it is raging affair or massive money loss the potential of breakup our stronger than say when one person likes to watch sesame street or flicking bogeys . besides i do not think every couple shares the same level of intimacy, some know each other's passwords , some have private logs and others things. I guess problems begin to occur when the level of privacy is not decided upon mutually. Or when one person feels he/she has the right to make all choices.