Re: Can parents be that selfish?
you missed my point. yet, i appreciate your comments.
it is not about proving or disproving parents.
instead, it is about making parents feel fully and positively aware of the security that a young adult child's choice in finding a life partner, ought to be acknowledged.
you surely wont want to live the rest of your life, with anyone handed on down to you, would you? if anything, a spouse can and ideally ought to be a source of improving your life and so should you be able to that - grow together! & happily.
absolutely, without any honest mutual understanding and regard, even kids of the same parents cannot share a roof, let alone, two people who have to live together as spouses to each other.
& no, i did not and will never refer to the glitz that you speak of referring to unreal and unethical affairs in media.
no one can guarantee a 100 percent perfect marriage and relationship.
but when an effort going into making the marital contract goes waste because of personal confusion or parental politics - it is really disappointing.
dushwari
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Dushwari,
To parents, their children, by default, are naive and rash. Its incumbent upon children to EARN their parents' trust and confidence. It's a very valuable lesson that parents impart to their children as it only makes the children better.
I hear a lot of young punks and punkettes whining about their parents. I don't blame them since they've grown up with a sense of entitlement to a 'Bollywood' romance and a 'Hollywood' lifestyle. You want all that? Make yourself worthy of it. Not by whining about parents or family elders but by going out in the world and making your mark. Caveat: it may not make you happy though :D
Parents are human beings with their share of weaknesses, insecurities and fear. After all is said and done, they want the best for their children. Prove to them that you are capable and that you've earned your trust & confidence; they will listen.