Hey, I’ll give you a scenario. Perhaps you can tell me whether a close friend of the opposite gender would be OK or not.
If one spouse has recently discovered their husband/wife is having an online fling with another person, the spouse gets in touch with this person and tells them exactly what has been happening as in the husband/wife just considered this person as a timepass for boredom. This person then asks for forgiveness and assures the spouse that all contact will be broken. After a few weeks this same person is in touch with the husband/wife again. Is this friendship okay?
I think having the need to measure your spouse’s loyalty is a bit harsh on the spouse. I think its important to consider one’s own insecurities. If you feel like loyalty needs to be proven it may be the case you arent feeling the relationship is strong enough.
I would think about what I can do to fix it. How is my own behaviour, and wanting things proven, effecting the relationship.
I believe that it would be more fruitful to take steps to try and strengthen the relationship. Will help build a level of trust we all want in a relationship and one that most, if not all, of us will have to work for.
Who wants to spend their life measuring their partners loyalty? Sounds stressful as.