if one is unable to trust someone, can mistrust lead to trust one day?
can not caring leads to caring?
can it be that someone has got so much disillusioned that now more illusion will bring that person back to reality?
share your own examples like the one & explicate on them, if you like.
best,
Dushwari
Re: can disbelief lead to belief?
yes, generally
Re: can disbelief lead to belief?
awesome questions to think about. i'll think about it!
btw - as a brief comparative, if one lies about something to him/herself continuously, they often start believing their own disallusioned lie.
Re: can disbelief lead to belief?
thanks, intelliphant and dewani teri.
any other thoughts?
Re: can disbelief lead to belief?
Peace Sister Dushwari
Another good question. I think it may need to be a case of taking your questions in isolation from one another.
To care or not to care, to trust or not to trust, to believe or to disbelief ... all these should be understood before addressing them.
In my view 'care' is an intent based action as are the other three things. However, it is one such action that does not have an opposite action. It has a polarity i.e. negative care and positive care. No care is merely the absence of it. If I care for you that is one thing, but to say I do not care for you, does not mean I will do things to harm you ... it could mean that but not necessarily. So not caring is merely the void when care is not present.
To trust ... this is slightly different in that because in transaction some sort of trust is required. Without trust nothing can even be understood and communication will be broken down at every level. When a person hears a liar utter a lie, he has to trust the words he hears in order to deem the lie as so. If he distrusts the words or his own faculty to hear them or understand them then nothing can be used as a basis for induced actions. Trust is a basic requirement. In that case it becomes the default position to give 'benefit of the doubt' or to trust before analysis is undertaken and then to analyse based on the level of trust that has been endowed. Trust is therefore a building process inherently tied in the way it works from fundamental levels. Trust grows in a natural situation. Even with a liar ... the more he lies the more we trust the idea that we have developed about him being 'a liar'. Trust in the holistic sense i.e. to bestow a trust of some value to us that could harm us if compromised is another issue entirely but again it is based on the same idea that we trust those with our precious secrets those who will preserve them and return them in tact to us. Remember trust in that respect is a contract ... if trust is given without a contract then the other party may not be aware when a breach of trust is being done. For example ... If I tell you ... that I have a mole on my back, then you tell someone else, it would be wrong for me to take you to task for breaking my trust because I did not add 'do not tell anyone and have it agreed' preferably before telling or bestowing the trust.
Disbelief is a requirement sometimes to facilitate the other actions. On a religious level disbelief is a denial of letting the truth or guidance penetrate the heart. It is purposefully being myopic not analysing the truth and when doing so ... to do so deceptively. If the barriers to the mind are the organs that feed us the world we see, touch, smell, taste and hear then the barriers that lie between the mind and the heart are bias and ego. Only when there is no bias i.e. open-mindedness and no ego i.e. submission can the truth of guidance reach the heart.
Sometimes if I say "I don't care about you" ... The truth can be quite the opposite. It could mean I would like to care about you, but you hurt me when I do. I could mean would rather not have to care about you and so on. It could mean 'I care about making sure you are not cared for'. The way to tell if there is hope in a 'caring' relationship is to look for strong signs. A sign of strong care or strong anti-care is a hopeful situation, when things become indifferent then they create a stagnant situation. It may be impossible to recover from a 'I hate you' statement from someone, but a message to all men here. When a woman says this assume the opposite. Usually this statement is made when an imbalance is being experienced. So in the case of the 'vocalised' hate the answer is yes ... it can be reversed. However, in some cases 'true hatred' will not lead to love. Care will only be increased towards harming the said person.
Only that amount of trust should be made on someone that they can bear based on past performance. Past performance if bad should only be a series of mishaps not disasters. For example if an untrustowrthy person asks for a loan of $20,000 dollars you don't give it, but agree to perhaps give an amount that you internally would not mind if it was not given back. If in the aftermath the loan is returned then the trust increases, but if the loan is not returned you have protected yourself by only giving an amount that you did not miss. This is the sensible way of bestowing trust and gaining it. So yes distrust can lead to trust. However, the danger does not lie with the untrustworthy person. The danger lies with the trustworthy person who cannot fulfil his trust. This is because due to a series of trustful displays a person makes sure that he has your trust to ask for the biggy ... Get's it and then betrays this type of situation should be planned for too.
1) Only trust Allah (SWT) fully even the most trustworthy person can betray you, even if they don't intend to.
2) Maintain the order established and take no short cuts. Only endow that much trust based on past performance. Do not give more trust based on a temporal 'good' string of trustworthy actions. Inconsistency itself is suspect. It will be easier to forgive this way.
Can disbelief lead to belief ... Not really ... Allah (SWT) allows those who choose disbelief to wander away. However, if Allah (SWT) so chooses based on some good action then He will run towards him who has wandered away. So in this respect yes. We should assume the 'no' position. How many evil people have you seen turn 'good'? Filtering out the media effect of character moulding. Disbelievers lie to convince even themselves. It is self-induced blindness.
Re: can disbelief lead to belief?
"However, the danger does not lie with the untrustworthy person. The danger lies with the trustworthy person who cannot fulfil his trust. This is because due to a series of trustful displays a person makes sure that he has your trust to ask for the biggy ... Get's it and then betrays this type of situation should be planned for too. "
exactly true, brother psyah.
last paragraphy in terms of religiosity is nothing but truth itself.
thanks for such a beautiful explanation and reminders to be mindful of what to seek and what to avoid. :>
best,
sister Dushwari