or love will pop in at one or another moment?
Is it a hard and fast rule? 
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
One of my best friends is a guy. We've never had a romantic/love/etc moment ever. I have a lot of guy friends which are purely platonic.
This whole guy and girl not being friends thing is a myth!
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pata nai mein sab ko bhai bana leti hoon dost nai :P
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
One of my best friends is a guy. We've never had a romantic/love/etc moment ever. I have a lot of guy friends which are purely platonic. This whole guy and girl not being friends thing is a myth!
Can you discuss each and everything that you have on your mind with you male friends?
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
lekin kuch log bad main keh daitay hain boht koshish ki lekin tumhy behn nai samajh saka/ bhai nai samajh saki 
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
Not all of them obviously, depends how close you are. But yeah, with my male best friend I can, he's pretty good like that. I know i can tell him something personal and he doesn't have to be a girl to get it. But then that is also because we have a lot of respect for each other, so that is a big factor in our friendship too.
I discuss my lovelife (whatever you wanan call it anyway!) with him all the time!
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Thats cool 
Respect is the cornerstone of all relations, I think. But i have a question for you. I am not talking about going cheap or anything but have you ever felt that male friends often tend to be a little bit flirter?
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yes they can be friends only … 
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haha some of them do! Again, I think it depends on how close you are and also how you are as a person. I make it very clear to all of my guy friends that I don't like men touching me, and I'm a hijabi and that includes being modest in my behaviour and my appearance. But then on the other hand, I do have guy friends who don't act inappropriately, but they are still a bit flirty/playful and to a certain extent I don't mind this as long as they know their barriers.
I'm not a flirty person myself but I do know how to have a laugh, so I guess we tend to bond over making fun out of each other etc, so I guess this could be construed as flirting :/
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How? 
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baad mein bataungi 
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:k:
And if you have a BF how does he feels about your friendships with other males? :hmmm:
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abi batao na
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
I think how you are raised and with what mentality is a great factor in determining whether a girl and a boy can be friends.
Some kids are raised with the attitude that they can play/interact with the (non-related/mehram) opposite gender until the age of 8/9 and then have *no contact *with them until they are old enough to have one of them as a spouse.
^In this case I don't think friendship is possible because in the "no contact"time period, a youth is more vulnerable and likely to be influenced by media and more easily swayed by those who merely want to take advantage.
Otherwise, I say why not!
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Wow..loved your reply. Ok if you are asked to suggest something to parents of both boys and girls in this regard..what would you say? Allowing them to mingle with opposite gender or what?
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Thanks.
Well technically, that *would be *against Islam,opposing the modesty that our faith is so prevalent for…
but it’d the only way that opposite genders could learn to be friends too!
I just can’t think of a balanced and halaal solution… :hinna:
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Okay here is a situation where the family is very strict in this respect..they don’t allow their girls to mingle even with their male cousins..but by some unknown mean one of the girls gets to get in touch with a boy by the way of a cell phone (Thats also no being bought for her by her family. rest you can understand yourself) When her family becomes aware of this they beat the girl they aren’t even in the position to get these two married coz of some caste and creed differences issues. What should they do in such a situation?
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why are they talking to each other? if they are genuinely just friends then thats one issue.
But if it's a case of them having a romantic relationship then the parents need to be a bit realitistic. Beating the girl and forbidding her to get married because of caste is silly and doesn't help either of the party's situation at all.
It's better to resolve the issue and get them married. If they genuinely can't get married then the girl should just cut off communication with the boy, as it will not be able to go anywhere.
Re: Can boy and girl be friends only?
why are they talking to each other? if they are genuinely just friends then thats one issue. But if it's a case of them having a romantic relationship then the parents need to be a bit realitistic. Beating the girl and forbidding her to get married because of caste is silly and doesn't help either of the party's situation at all. It's better to resolve the issue and get them married. If they genuinely can't get married then the girl should just cut off communication with the boy, as it will not be able to go anywhere.
Thats what I was gonna say! :)
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MH and Emphi...Its a romantic relationship and now both the parents and the girl are being stubborn..no one is willing to be a bit lenient.
Anyhow, i think, this is a situation that can't be adjudicated by any third party.