thanku for your support and prayers, i dont have words to express my gratitude
i wanted to know does anyone of any situations where the therapy and/or family intervention improved the situation to the extent that the couple to able to live together in a civil way cos of the kids???
Not counting on any help from his family cos they r such selfish *******s… But i grew up without a father and i so so wanted my child to have a complete family… I am so heartbroken right now, my dream of happy home for my child is shattered
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
may Allah have mercy on you and your child. may He guide you to make the best decisions.
the answer that you are looking for is so very specific to the personalities and priorities of the people involved that it is very difficult to say yes or no.
sometimes all a person needs is a wake-up call that tells them all they have to lose if they do not mend their ways....other times there are folks that end up never even seeing their child again because they can't see beyond the tips of their noses.
in order to figure out your specific case you will have to use your knowledge of what has already transpired and open up a communication channel from a safe distance.
take time.....lots of it.......slow things down to a snail's pace while you open a dialogue to figure things out.
is that possible for you?
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
It's a nice sentiment, but I won't say yes or no...
It also depends on what you want to consider a "happy ending." If you can accept that your idea of a happy ending doesn't have to match what you originally thought it was....it's possible.
But the only way it'll be possible is if the other person is willing to make things work. If they're not, then I can say for sure a happy ending isn't going to be possible.
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
Yes,
1-If you become financially independent.
2-You make healthy reliable connection in society, so any time you can move to safer environment.
One thing you have to know, You can not give your life in the hands of a complete deleted
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
yes ,
but just as muzna said you should able to control situation accordingly to the requirements
yes you can
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
thanku for your support and prayers, i dont have words to express my gratitude i wanted to know does anyone of any situations where the therapy and/or family intervention improved the situation to the extent that the couple to able to live together in a civil way cos of the kids??? Not counting on any help from his family cos they r such selfish ******s....... But i grew up without a father and i so so wanted my child to have a complete family....* I am so heartbroken right now, my dream of happy home for my child is shattered**
You are actually helping your child by taking yourself out of the abusive situation, your abusive husband's behavior was sooner or later going to start impacting the emotional well-being of your child. You and your child are safer away and both deserve to be in a peaceful home. You are entitled to happiness too, if you are not at peace then how can your child be...
I don't know how to answer your questions because I really don't know but I think staying and having hope for change while the abuse is going on is not very helpful, also I think situations like these don't change without an intervention, and sincere effort. The other party needs to show they are willing to change, and take responsibility towards making it happen. False promises of change and apologies with no effort, do nothing...after he shows he is a responsible man and you feel like he deserves a second change you need to be able to put up personal boundaries and be strong to not let your guard down easily.
Pray Allah guide you in making a decision that is best for both you and your child.
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
Most important thing is they must have endings. Whether the endings may be classified as happy or not, when the abusive marriage is ended, it can only be a better ending than enduring abuse and patterning in your child another generation of endurance of abuse (Abuse 2.0)
Re: can abusive marriages have happy endings
Yes, I know couples who managed to solve their issues enough to live a civil life for the sake of kids. HOWEVER, the situations I know of…the father never threatened to murder the child or any other family members.
Given the fact that your husband has actually made threats against your mother and child (who btw is also HIS child! 
)…I strongly urge you to focus on the reality of your situation. We all have dreams/fantasies of how we want our life to be. Unfortunately those visions don’t always come true. Your #1 focus right now should be to make sure that you and your child are not in any danger.
They can, but it's not v common.