Can a Shi'a girl marry a Sunni guy? Do inter-sect marriages go well?

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:smack: There’s no such thing as ‘sects’ in Islam. You’re either a Muslim or you’re not. By Muslim I mean someone that follows the Quran and Sunnah and nothing else. All this divergence from Islam in its purest form is so sad.

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No there are no such things as different "cults" in Islam.. It's just different schools of thought. Unfortunately it was after the Prophet saw passed away that many decisions about for example Islamic jurisprudence were made, and it all depended on whose guidelines are being followed. Yes we are all Muslims, but we need to know why we all do the things we do the way we do, it's not about being sheep. As for inter-sect marriages, I have seen them blossom is some cases.. It just requires a lot of understanding and patience, and willingness to accept a different point of view. It's not about who is right and who is wrong, and I don't believe you should ever change your beliefs for anyone else - only for yourself and if you truly believe in your new path. I personally always wanted to avoid it purely because I want to bring up my children in the path I view to be correct after my research.. I would assume a couple that aren't as passionate about their beliefs would find an inter-sect marriage easier.

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It bothers me every time I look at this thread’s title…OP, you meant “should” a shia girl marry a sunni guy… not “can.” :smack:

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whoopsie, that’s what was meant :slight_smile:

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Salam

Marriage is quite difficult as it is. Having additional complications can be a rough ride after marriage. I have been brought up in the US, and things are more openly accepted there. But, you have asked about Pakistan. Now, that is a whole different story. This are a bigger issue there, esp in these types of matters. Many people hold the belief that Shia's are not even muslims, and they aren't afraid to say it either!

I think the best thing to do is discuss the matter openly with both families. No one should have any ill feelings at heart regarding this matter. The best relationships are those that begin with trust, honesty and communication. Sorry to sound like a fortune cookie, but I encourage discussing the matter with parents. Try to get there input instead of trying to make them do what you want to do.

I wish you good luck. May Allah bless you Ameen

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Well...reading from your title. All i would say is talk to your family about this. If both of your families are ok with this arrangement..then usually it works out. So weight out your options carefully. What are you going to teach your kids? what sect they would follow. You don't want them to be confused. So think carefully what are you getting yourself into.

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How open you are to the other person practicing belief system and vice versa

How open both of you are to the belief system of the kids

How open are both individuals parents

How close both individuals are to their parents

How much both individuals
want to be part of each others extended family.

And lastly

How does each individual want the other one to be treated in and accepted in their family

The answers to these wuestions should help answer if they should or not.

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This.

With all due respect, how crazy is your family? How crazy is hers?

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Well, Most of the time, Orthodox Sunnis(Fiqah Jhangvi) firmly believe

KAFIR KAFIR SHIA KAFIR
JO NA MANAY WOH B KAFIR

So its a big NO.
Same goes for Orthodox Shias, Those who believe Iran is heaven or Khameni is the last saviour.
But there are too many Fiqahs both in Sunnis and Shias.

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they shouldnt...too many differences even in the basic aqeedah...

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Really? I grew up in Pakistan. I have never heard normal people say this. Most sunnis and shia don't consider ahmadis to be Muslim. But Sunni and Shia are considered very much muslim by the vast majority.

Like what, for example? I am sunni and I have shia friends. As far as I know, there are minor differences...method of praying, disagreement over caliph lineage etc. but as far as basic aqeedah goes, I don't know of any major differences?

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ugh hubby and i are always arguing about whether im going to pray taraweehs in ramadan or not.. trust me thats my biggest prob

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this isn't disturbing at all or anything..

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Can a Shi'a girl marry a Sunni guy? Do inter-sect marriages go well?

That's as far as the difference that exists that I know of too, to do tareeweeh or not to do taraweeh, to pray with your hands crossed or with your hands down, which caliphite lineage. The rest is all the same, same duas, same ayahs, same surahs etc. Same Quran. Two of my cousins are married in these kinds of marriages and because both were love marriages they both have a good understanding of each others systems and when around their immediate families do what is respectful for each others side, ie: pray together as every one else is whether it is the Shia way or Sunni way. Havnt witnessed any problems but that's here in the west. Both families are fine with it since there is no fundamental difference, everyone is following the same book, same teachings.

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That is hilarious! Converting within Islam???!!!

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Can a Shi'a girl marry a Sunni guy? Do inter-sect marriages go well?

^ how do you keep something like that a secret!? Especially from your husband!?

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Apparently you can. An acquaintance converted from Hinduism to Islam and then as a Muslim married a Hindu guy from India. He's about to receive his visa and she is working on trying to break the news. Yup, true story.

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As long as you say, "La ilaha illa lah, Muhammadun Rasoolullah" and believe in the 5 pillar of Islam, you're a Muslim. No one has the right to place judgment on you. This is one of my favorite verses from the Noble Qur'an:

[Surah al-Jathiya 45:14]: "Say, [O Muhammad], to those who have believed that they [should] forgive those who expect not the days of Allah so that He may recompense a people for what they used to earn."

You're basically asking, "I'm a Muslim, am I allowed to ask another Muslim"? We're all Muslim. So to answer your question of "is it right?" Of course it is, just as "right" as it would be to marry another Sunni or whatever other ridiculous sect name.

Personally, I don't call myself Sunni, Shia, Sufi, whatever. I know who I am and that's between God and I, and if you say you're a Muslim, I will treat you like one.

But unfortunately, many of our parents' generations are going to be more difficult to deal with. If you feel it's right, do it because you're well within your Islamic rights to do it. No one, not even your mother or father, have the right to take away your rights as a Muslim. Dealing with the family would obviously be more difficult if you did it against their will, but do you want to do the right thing or the wrong thing?

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