it is a very nice and touching story. But I see it as it is a story nothing more than that. Real life is different , or at least I see it.
In real life I saw 6 Pakistani couples some with children who had very happily married life, as I knew it, but one fine morning I heard that they got divorced. I never saw or knew that they were going through some kind of friction.
Does any of you know anybody who was able to save their marriage using whatever method ? I do not.
What I have seen at least with Pakistani families ,who I know, that they dropped a bombshell one fine morning and there is no turning back.
I think we all just fantasize a lot about a 'perfect marriage'. All a marriage has to be a 'part of life'. Yea, LIFE. With ups and downs. Hot and cold. A couple gets through all these obstacles as a team and live their life. Only thing that matters is that they r together with good memories and hopeful future.
Still can't understand ?? ... consider it as doubles match for ping pong. Doesn't matter who played what shot. Only thing matters is that who won the match. :biggthumb
What about when you reach the point of no return....how do you work from that level?
I've also heard of failing marriages and yet they have seem to agreed somehow and made up. I doubt if the relationship was as strong as before, but they are able to live together and perhaps they will become stronger in time.
How do you initiate this communication or the lost feeling?
Mirch as for dropping the bombshell...I dont think it was as sudden as you may think. Things may have been sour for ages, but they put up a facade...and at home things may be really bad.
I know of marriages that have been saved and those that have not.
Here is an example:
A nice looking guy and a nice looking lady had been married for 12-13 years. 2 kids, a boy and a girl. Couldn't get along. Wife was very homely, conservative, guy was very outgoing, ambitious. Both very nice in their own way, but no commonality.
Struggled for years. Endless arguments, fights, tension. Finally talks of divorce.
Entered into a mentorship program. Were told to write down good things about each other and focus only on those without being judgemental or having any expectation.
They worked it out. They now tell their own story. They found a spark. They just needed help.
True story.
Now all stories are not like that. Some are more complicated.
Anybody else wants to share?
what is mentorship prog. is it like counselling? and how were they convinced to enter it? I think in many cases men are most reluctant to go to counsellors.
