Who is supposed to call more? Girl’s mom or boy’s mom? And does the boy’s BHABI have the right to tell the girl that her mom isn’t friendly?
I’m just curious.
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talking about calling names, calling for help, calling the police, calling the shots, calling bluff or pot calling the kettle?
I suppose it would depend on what the girl and the boy have been up to.
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lol, calling just to chat
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Hmmm not to sure.. Boys? If they are pursing the rishta? I don't think it matters. And as for your rishtas Bhabi, no. no one has a right to be insensitive or rude. I find that rude personally .
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Strictly between parents IMO unless one of the parents is zaeef, not around, passed etc. You and MIL should keep talks between each other - if your parents have blessed the relations, and not involve bhabis etc. No need for any other family members to be involved.
Regargless your mom is friendly or not in rishta thingys when both family meet and see how each others ways are they do make judgments regarding each other good or bad whatever the impression they get from each other but they keep the judgements to themselves and make decision on it later on but calling the girl directly and commenting on her mom is highly rude behavior something a well mannered family would never do.
P.s. The girl should not disheart by it since its boy’s sister in law not his mother herself may be bhabi wants to get the boy married in her relatives or something like this. If boys parents are live they should discuss issues with girl’s parents instead of calling girl.
The bhabhi was probably asked to help because of the language issue between his mum and yours.
As far as her telling you, she did not have to. She possibly was trying to clarify if there were going to be family objections or feet dragging in future if she felt your mum was not as enthusiastic as she expected. Styles, personalities etc can be an issue.
Plus it does seem like that with career, him being a divorcee etc that your side has some concerns, even you. That comes out or shows in interactions at times.
Just talk to the dude, have a family meeting, and git'r done.
You and the dude, you are not kids, families should be acting on your behalf on your direction, you should be in control of your respective sides, and be in lock step to make it happen.
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^ Wise words! Listen to Pir Sahab...
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The bhabhi was probably asked to help because of the language issue between his mum and yours.
As far as her telling you, she did not have to. She possibly was trying to clarify if there were going to be family objections or feet dragging in future if she felt your mum was not as enthusiastic as she expected. Styles, personalities etc can be an issue.
Plus it does seem like that with career, him being a divorcee etc that your side has some concerns, even you. That comes out or shows in interactions at times.
Just talk to the dude, have a family meeting, and git'r done.
You and the dude, you are not kids, families should be acting on your behalf on your direction, you should be in control of your respective sides, and be in lock step to make it happen.
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None. Desi people shouldnt talk because they arent very mature.
and no. tell bhabhi she is fat.