Re: ...Calling Someone "Uncle"...
**Shak brother **I understand and I also thought about it. But I guess my stance is that they won't be going to Pakistan as much. Most of my relatives are either in US or UK. My mom's brothers and parents, and dad's brothers and sisters are in Pakistan. We all really don't get along with each other that well, especially after they found out I was marrying someone outside of the family. So, I don't think I'll be going to Pakistan and staying at a relative's house.
However, I will teach them punjabi and urdu so if we do go back to Pakistan to visit (may be stay in a hotel or just visit (not live) some of the relatives), they are able to understand them as well as when they go out for shopping etc. I guess they can call them "Aslam **Sahab" **in urdu.
Sara as I said, our generation is growing up here, our kids will grow up here. You and I have different mentality than our parents. I am not sure about you, but I wouldn't mind if my friend's child would call me "Mr. Sohail" or "Sohail Sahab" because I am just not used to that. If someone in particular wants them to call Uncle and my kids find it easy, more power to them.
And I am not sure about finishing up the plate being bad manners, but I will tell you this: If you ever noticed, people don't finish their soft drink bottle. They ALWAYS leave some coke in it. It's considered cool but I find it cheap and proudy behavior.
Sweetpip that doesn't make you english. Like I said, most people have it that way but some people have family names as well. I am in favor of family names.