I would really, really like to get some responses on the following. BEFORE you were parents did any of you have close relations with other children for e.g. nieces, nephews…grow up around them or be around other children etc. When the children messed about, like whinge when your watching tv, suck at things, dribble over others etc did it piss you off? And if so how badly?
NOW that you are parents do you find that you are more tolerant about telling your own child off for doing the same ? Like if he/she is whinging during you watching your fave tele what is your reaction? Do you turn it off and soothe him/her or do you tell him to shut up and leave the room that instant like i hope to do?
I am constantly told that the reaction is different for your own children and for others - no matter howww close they are to you.
And if you’re curious, yes some brat has really pissed me off today ! I just thnk 'if i was his/her mum i would have done this by now… ’
i have a phuphi who is like that...everything everyone else does is horrilbe while her children are golden..what is hilarious is how 3 or years later she'll say that what was horrible when her niece did it...is now totally acceptable b/c her daughter is doing it.
My behavior did change, but with time, not because I have child. I used to slap my nephews/nieces very frequently, not that I liked it but cuz their mums would be 'shikayat’ing everytime and that gets to your head fast :D. After being away from them for 8-9 years, I never touch them when I go back home, all is lovey dovey.
Few of my nephews/nieces used to suckle their thumbs, even when they reached 18 I used to tease them about it, my own son took “pacifier” till he was 3.5, I was so against it but
that is so true, you cant imagine. I always got the shudders with kids, little ones making goobles in my water glass, spitting up, wanting the food that I have etc etc. I thought they were gross little thangs. I used to get so very bothered by them that my parents were urging me to get my tubes tied before I ever had littles.
But now, things are SOOOO different! I wont go on and on here about how wonderful it is to have a little one,, dont wanna sound like an old auntie lol! but really you DO change - dramatically - when you have one (or more!) of your very own!!
Yes, your behave different with your kids than your nieces/nephews. I grew up with nieces and nephews and used to boss them around and made them do things which I liked.
I have more patience with my son, may be because he is only two.
Yes, I did change........no one was more surprised than myself about how much motherhood changed me. I couldn't stand children before (and even now find it hard to tolerate other people's children if truth be told), I thought they were loud and messy and covered everything in chocolate and totally disrupted your life.
I was n am a favourite one among the kids of my cousins etc. I can be veryyy flexible with other kids ....but i'm veryyyy strict with my own kids comparatively .....
in my view i'm not responsible for any other kids ....but my kids are my responsibility n i can't afford to spoil them ....
I was about to same the same thing Afia bhaji, aside the fact that I don’t have my own children to be responsible for…but I guess I am mother to my siblings!
Your own children are your own responsiblity so one must and will naturally be expected to care for them differently and treat them in a different manner to other people’s children. If I ever see a brat of a child I politely refer the parent to “SuperNanny”.
We don't have a lot of family here, so there weren't really many nephews and nieces or young cousins and nieces around.
Only when my Moms younger brother married and finally became a father, we got a taste of what it's like. :D I must have been about 13/14 years old at the time.
I was always nice to their little ones, though I wouldn't let them in my room. And now I spoil my children too. I always have good intentions, like starting from today I will use more discipline, I will say NO more often to them, etc. etc. But of course I always fail to do that.
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I used to tease them about it, my own son took “pacifier” till he was 3.5, I was so against it but